Recently, I’ve been going through some things that have led me to a place where I’m in need of some self-love. I’m slowly learning how to love myself and treat myself the way I would treat someone that I love. I’ve got a long way to go, but here’s a to-do list that started me off:

1. Shave your legs.

For me, this is one of the most feminine and freeing things I could do. It makes me feel sexy, and silky, and smooth. The first step to self-help is learning how to look in the mirror and love what’s looking back at you.

2. Start working out.

Not only will the endorphins that are released make you feel good about yourself, but the results won’t hurt. For me, this includes working on my diet. I’ve started eating healthier, which in turn also helps me to feel better about myself and the lifestyle I’m choosing.

3. Drink more water.

I’ve always been like a camel; water is the only thing that I drink. It’ll make you feel lighter and you’ll be more hydrated. It takes care of your body and mind all at the same time.

4. Drink tea.

Some warm, soothing tea will make your throat feel amazing. It’s also a very healthy choice and is good for calming down right before bed, which leads me to my next item.

5. Sleep right.

Sleep is the most important thing for daily activities. Rest is key for waking up and not feeling like all you want to do is fall right back asleep. It’ll give you more energy for your days and help make you more productive.

6. Start a diary.

Preferably a locked one that nobody will ever be able to get into. I’ve learned my lesson with this. I made the mistake of leaving all my diaries (I have a journal-addiction) out on my book-shelf, and my friends have randomly picked them up and read them out loud before even processing what they’ve said - in turn, embarassing me to no end. Don’t make that mistake. Get a lock. All in all, diaries will help you process your life experiences and get your feelings out so that you don’t take them out on others. Also, it’ll give you a place to vent so that you don’t accidentally post something you don’t mean for everyone to see. I’ve done that, too. Big mistake.

7. Pick up old hobbies.

For me, music is something I’ve loved for my whole life. I used to write song lyrics, play my guitar and ukulele, and sing all the time. From time to time I would post some covers on YouTube or SoundCloud. This is something I’m trying to get back into because it made me happy. If you have something like this (maybe knitting, crocheting, sports, etc.), try to pick it back up again. I guarantee you’ll feel better about yourself.

8. Watch Disney movies.

There’s something so wonderful about watching your favorite childhood movies. It brings you back to a simpler time, where there was no stress or worries. All you cared about was if the prince kissed the princess and the bad guy was defeated.

9. Get your nails done.

Is it really self-help if you’re not pampering yourself? This’ll make you feel pretty and girly, and you’ll wonder why you ever let yourself wait so long to have someone massage your feet.

10. Go shopping.

Retail therapy is so real. This past weekend I went to Ulta. I had my face “color-matched,” got some great new foundation and spot cream and all new brushes. It felt great to buy some new goodies.

11. Finally, spend time with friends.

Surrounding yourself with people you love is always a good idea. Friends are there to support you and hold you up when you’re feeling down. Never forget that there are always people out there who love you no matter what.