The mind can be a wonderful thing, yet at times, it hampers our progress in life. The same may be said about the heart. Sometimes our heart controls our mind, leading us to impulsive decisions and clouded logic. Other times our mind controls our heart, leading to hesitation and mixed emotions. Balancing the two is extremely difficult. It seems these days you’re either heartless or in love. Our generation doesn’t know how to balance logic and emotions. This is true now more than ever due to the illusion social media creates in leading those who are looking for love to believe everybody they come across is disposable.

We’ve all been there before. Heartbroken. Desolate in our own solitude. Exhausted. I understand these things take time to recover from. Go through the motions. Grieve. Realize life is going to continue regardless if the relationship does not. Listen to End of The Road by Boyz II Men, or what about We Belong Together by Mariah Carey? Eat ice cream on a nightly-basis. Be a hoe. Do whatever it takes to get the heartbreak out of your system. Once you’ve done these things, to seal the deal and close the chapter, allow yourself to get back out there. It is in my personal opinion that if you are able to allow yourself to 100% fall for someone else, you can truly say you are over your previous lover, or lovers. This comes with a bit of hesitation, I understand, I understand because everybody wants somebody to take the leap of faith with.

About a month or so ago, this girl told me she was low-key scared. I asked her why, to which she responded by saying she was, "falling in love with me so quickly." I was, "like damn girl, already?! How tf this going to work when you're already lying to me???!" Needless to say, things didn’t work out simply because this is how life goes sometimes. The message I’m trying to drive home is to let go of that fear, kind of like how you let go of that lame who came before me. This is a public service announcement to all the girls who secretly have a crush on me. All zero of them. I’m writing this as a precautionary measure in case there so happens to be one girl out there that may think about having a crush on me and she stalks me and ends up on this page reading this.

If you are thinking about having a crush on me, listen. Honestly, I’m pretty cool, or at least I think so. I listen to songs on repeat-one, meaning I’m a very consistent guy who doesn’t get tired of things/people as I can appreciate things. I care about having courteous manners. During the colder seasons I throw my pants and socks in the dryer for a few minutes before I go out; I can do the same for you, too. I value good bedding, which means my bed is very comfortable. Most of my favorite sports teams suck, but I watch every game until there is no time left, even if they are getting their asses whooped. This should show you loyalty! I collect these very expensive toys called Bearbricks, the 1000% ones specifically. I hate soggy fries and record rap songs in my spare time. Every December, I fantasize of what it would be like to spend a holiday season in New York City in the mid-1980’s with someone I am deeply in love with, so that’s something interesting, I guess. I can go on and on, but I’d rather us hang and figure each other out for ourselves. (This only applies to girls who are thinking they might like-like me and pump their own gas.)

The point is, don’t be afraid to fall in love with a real goon. Let your mind and heart agree for once, ma.