In college I have grown aware of so many social aspects that affects us all as a society. We have created these social constructs to divide us all so we can have a peaceful society. But these constructs hurt us more than we think. Everyday, I meet a person that has some kind insecurity or fear solely based on our society's expectations. I have grown so aware of these little things that I can no longer stand it. I notice the simplest things like the comments men make to women are often way too insensitive. Our "peaceful society" has never been more than an idea.
So here are a few things that I am tired of in our society:
I'm tired of being expected to be pretty and clean for a man. Because you know if you're not completely groomed (especially down there) a man will not want to touch you. I am especially tired of having to look nice in public. Sure, it feels good to look nice but let me throw on a pair of sweatpants once in a while. I look good in those too. Looks matter so much more than we think.
I am tired of a man asking me "who's the man in the relationship?" when I am dating a woman. You do realize that I am dating a woman because I DON'T want a man. So we're both the woman in the relationship because that is how we like it.
I am tired of the insult "you're such a girl." Because if you see a man crying in public they get called a girl as if its an insult. Women are strong. We are the ones that have the ability to carry a child for nine months and the push it out of our vaginas. That is badass.
I am tired of labels. Lesbian, gay, transexual, white, black, yellow are all terms created as another barrier to divide us all. How about simply being a human being.
I am angry because I have to clutch my taser in my hand when I am walking alone late at night.
I am mad that rapists get a shorter sentence time than drug dealers.
I am angry that no one teaches young men about consent. But women are constantly reminded of being careful late at night.
I am so tired of watching people get treated unfairly because of their skin color. Because that black man is not a criminal. And that woman wearing a hijab is not a terrorist.
I am tired of women tearing each other down for simple things. And I know most of you even call yourselves feminist. Empower one another. Let that girl shake that nonexistent booty around the dance floor. If it makes her feel good, let her do it. With no judgement.
I am tired of mental illness not being taken seriously in this country. Especially when so many of our soldiers/veterans suffer from PTSD. PTSD is a serious disorder that can cause a number of other mental and physical illnesses. How much higher must the suicide rate go up in the US until we realize its a real issue?
I am tired of people asking why I don't want a husband and children. Maybe because up to 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce. And then those children end up commuting from one house to another until the age of 18.
I am tired of people saying racism is dead. Your ignorance astounds me. Every day I drive past a house that has a confederate flag. That flag alone is one of the original representations of racism.