Today is National Boyfriend Day, and I must admit that I was sad looking at other women post pictures of their boyfriends. However, I thought about all of the negative emotions associated with my previous relationship and realized that being single was the best decision I ever made. Let me tell you why it was the best decision I ever made. Well, I didn't realize that the relationship that I was in was very toxic until I got out of the relationship. I found myself slowly being depressed with a corrupt mindset. I was an emotional wreck and I'm not ashamed to admit the truth. Once I left the relationship I was happy and at peace with myself. It was then that I realized that I needed to love myself before trying to love someone else. Now, I know it is not going to be easy especially if you have to get over your first love like me, but you will make it. Here are some tips that I did to help me get over my ex:

Cry like a baby

It's okay to cry and let it all out. Why hold it in ? It will only make things worse . However, do not allow yourself to cry over the same situation for months. Give yourself 2 days or even a week to cope with the situation. After one week is up it is time to move on because life goes on.

Think about your future

This was one of the things that I always did because it made me think about my goals. I knew what I wanted in a man and how happy I wanted to be in a relationship. So, thinking about my future really showed me that the relationship that I was in did not fit my vision of my future soulmate. This also exposed how low I lowered my standards and that leads me to my next point.

Do NOT lower your standards and know your worth

I use to get a lot of rude comments from guys because I had a list of characteristics that they needed to have in order to talk to me. Then I was told that my list is stupid since there is no perfect guy and I needed to come back down to reality. I agree that my list was a little too much but settling for anything will never happen again. Know your worth and never fall for anything. Most importantly, stay true to yourself.

Do something that you like to do every week

This is so important because self-love is really the best love. Take some time out of your busy schedule and treat yourself. You find what makes you happy while getting over your ex. Go out with your friends, take a trip to the beach, take a cooking class etc. After all, you deserve to be treated like a queen.

A breakup may be tough but the aftermath is always a blessing. You walked away with a ton of lessons and now you can enter the world with a new set of lenses. Always remember that if it was true love it would have made it to the end.