If you've just come here from Part One, you now know a few tips on how to deal with irritating people. Those tips were great, but there's still more to learn. It can take a lot to deal with anger and irritation, so we'll need all the tips we can get. Besides, everyone is different, and some people need certain tips more than others. I hope that if you didn't find a tip you liked in the first list, you'll find something that works for you in this one.
Without further ado, here are five more tips for ya:
1. Try to understand.
Not everyone who does something mean to you is the world's most horrible person. Sometimes they're just having a bad day. Try to understand that they're human too and try to give them a bit of a break. Especially if it's a stranger who upset you, remember that you may be seeing them at their worst. And be honest with yourself; you can be a jerk sometimes too!
2. It's not the end of the world.
So what if one person irritates you that one time? It's not the end of the world! You don't have to harbor resentment toward them. Even if it's someone who irritates you repeatedly, there's no reason to let that ruin your life. Yes, you can be upset about something, but you don't have to let it ruin your whole day.
3. Don't confuse what you're angry about.
Sometimes anger draws up other things we're angry about. You may be upset with someone, and that reminds you of other things you're upset about and things from your past that have hurt you. Pretty soon, you're enraged because of all of these different things, and you blame that one person for being the source of all of that anger. If you're going to be upset, check that you're upset about the present issue. Don't bring past hurts to the party!
4. You can't please everyone, and not everyone can please you.
There will be people who get angry with you; that's just a part of life. That doesn't mean you can be a jerk to people and just shrug it off because "you can't please everyone," but it does mean that you don't have to get upset every time someone gets upset with you. It's gonna happen at some point, so just be prepared for it. Just like you wish some people would cut you slack, though, be sure to cut them slack too. It goes back to being understanding: not everyone is going to be friendly with you, just like you don't want to be friendly with everyone.
5. Set boundaries and stick to them.
This is similar to a tip I gave in Part One, but I wanted to reiterate it because it's so important! No matter what kind of relationship you have with someone, you have to set solid boundaries. Let them know that you mean business and that you will not accept certain behaviors. I like how the author, Dr. Carlson, emphasizes that it isn't rude to establish boundaries; it's how the relationship survives!
Keep in mind that I didn't include every tip this book had to offer. It had several more detailed tips to help you deal with irritating people; I just wanted to give you some major and general themes. I recommend getting this book for yourself if you're interested in learning more.
If you didn't read Part One, you can check that out here: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/tips-from-dont-ge...
I hope these tips were helpful for you. They sure gave me some insight! I hope you have a wonderful and stress-free holiday!
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