1. Keep it on the DL

If you're the kind of person that gives up easily, don't post on every social media platform and tell everyone you know that you're going to run a marathon, when everyone knows that you've never been a runner before. Don't advertise to all your friends and family what you plan on doing. Keep your resolution on the down low, maybe don't even tell anyone. While social support can be very beneficial, it can give you a sense of self-pressure, which can cause anxiety and you might shut down. If you're anything like me, which means that you tend to feel anxious very easily, I would suggest keeping your goals to yourself.

2. Be realistic

One time my therapist said something that has really resonated with me. While I can't remember what she said word for word, it was something along the lines of, "you must not hate them enough if you haven't put in the work to change it." Humans are stubborn and they're determined. If we want something, it will happen. Don't say something, complain about something if you've never actively put in the work to change or to grow. Set a goal that is realistic for yourself and what you know you can accomplish. A part of you that you need changed.

If your goal is to travel around the world, that's not realistic if you work a minimum wage job and are $40,000 in debt. Start small, because the more you win at the little goals, the big picture will fit together in the end.

3. Habit Tracker

Use an online tracker, or make your own. Make it pretty with pastel highlighters and stickers, or just use tally marks. Either way, track your progress via your habits. A visual representation will really help you figure out how often you are doing something and it can also show you how far you've actually come. When you do things a little bit at a time, it's hard to see the results because you have nothing to compare it too.