As “forever” as some relationships might feel, I’ve learned over the years that things do not always work out the way you want them to, and that’s 100 percent OK.

After getting out of a long term relationship most people, such as myself, want to take a break and take that time to focus on themselves and generally focusing on things in life that make them happy. But after awhile, you realize you want to get back into the “sea” and experience what’s out there. And luckily for you, I have tips on how to have a successful and fun first date after getting out of a serious relationship.

1. Be Safe

I mainly say this for those doing online dating. For one, don’t have shame for trying it, despite what your friends or family members might say. With that being said, keep your safety in mind when choosing a location for the date. Make sure to choose a public place and always let a family member or a close friend know where the date is happening as well as what your date looks like and name. For those of you with iPhones, send your location so that even if the date continues and you end up going to see a movie, your family member or friend will be able to see where you are. Those without iPhones, there are apps such as Life360 which allow someone with the app and in your “family circle” to see your location at all times.

2. Take Things Slow

As great as relationships are, you have to remember when starting back at the beginning, you do have to take things slow. Don’t be quick to rush into things. Take them at your own pace, even if the potential significant other is speeding through things don’t be afraid to tell them to slow down! Even when going on a first date, both people on the date should comfortable going at an agreed pace.

3. Be Yourself

I suppose it’s in some of people’s natures to act a bit differently on a first date, but I truly believe a key to having a successful first date after getting out of something long term is being yourself. The best thing about being yourself is that it takes a lot of pressure off from the date.

4. Have Fun

The most important thing about dating again is learning to have fun. Don’t be caught up in taking things serious at first, just allow yourself to meet new people. Even if things do not end up working out sometimes you will see that you end up making friends from people who did not necessarily work out as the dating type. Don’t let the opinions of other people stop you from being happy. Remember that it’s OK to have some fun, especially after getting out of a long term relationship. You never know where things might end up, especially in the beginning.