Cancer is a tricky thing, you see there are all different types of cancer and how they are formed. Whether it's in your tissues, blood, or even in a tumor. All cases are hard to deal with. For the family and the person who is going through it. Knowing that something inside you is going wrong, that something that used to function fine is not functioning the right way anymore.

This article is for the family that are dealing with a loved one who has cancer, or for those whose loved one just had surgery to remove cancer. Just some advice from someone who is going through it right now and hopefully will give you some inspiration to help you through this chapter in your life.

It is a waiting game, if you do not have patience this kind of experience will, even if it's just a little bit, teach you and hopefully give you some patience. It's not only the test results and the constant poking and prodding of your loved one that you have to wait for. It's also the person him or herself. This is a long and tedious process and if you think that it's hard for you going back and forth to different hospitals, imagine the person who is getting the treatment. Feeling like they are a burden to you because there is something wrong with them. Take time to sit with them after a long day at the hospital to tell them that you love them. Express to them that they are worth the time and effort. Do Not get short with them, if you feel on edge take a second to take a long sigh before answer them. Even if they are being stubborn.

Hold their hand. I know it may sound weird or tedious for some people. But it is the little things that count. They may be to weak or in a lot of pain when going through chemo and radiation. So just holding their hand can make them feel comfortable but also have that physical contact that every human being desires.

Call them. Not everyone gets to go visit their loved on at the hospital. For instance, my family member is all the way in Boston and I live in the bottom end of Mass. So calling them everyday to see how they are doing can lift their spirits. To be able to hear your voice and talk to someone besides a nurse that is only making small talk while checking on their vitals. To have a real conversation with someone familiar to know that someone cares.

Laughing is known to be the best medicine. I agree with this 100% it also can help with recovery rates. People are more prone to heal better when they are more positive, upbeat, somewhat happy kind of thinking. So making them laugh can settle their thoughts and put them at ease. Even if they are laughing at you, for me knowing that my loved one is smiling is all that I could ask for. I know I need to put my feelings aside because all of my focus is on them getting better and if they have to crack jokes at me, if that helps with a speedy recovery then so be it!

I know this is another one about time but that is all we have on this earth, time. It is all based on how we use it. Take the time for your loved one, yourself, and the other family members that are affected. They say hard times bring people together and it is sadly true. But it is in those memories that we hold fondly. Our time is valuable on this earth and personally spending it taking care of those that took the time to raise me is all that makes it worthwhile.

Good luck to everyone out there that is facing cancer, good luck to the families that are lending a helping hand. I wish that there was a way out of it but all we can do is be there for one another. I am just some random person going through the same events. Wanting to voice and help those that need it. To those that are new at it and need a little push in the right direction. Each family is different so take my advice and do as you wish. Thank you for reading.