Best friends are, well, the best. They are there to celebrate with you and also to commiserate with you. They are there to help you ponder the deepest questions of life or to simply talk about random stuff. You two are just so in sync...until one of you moves into a different time zone.
This just throws your whole schedule off, doesn’t it? You used to text each other when you woke up, complaining about how unnaturally early it was. But now, either your BFF isn’t up yet, or they’ve been up for a while now. The bond of getting up at the same horridly early time is just...lessened.
Late night chatting also becomes a problem. It could be that you’re exhausted beyond belief at 1:00 a.m., but your bestie is chatting it up since it’s only 10:00 p.m. on their side of the country, or vice versa. You really want to tell them all the latest news, but you need sleep to function.
And then there are the day-to-day struggles. Because your school schedules don’t match up, you have to wait to vent until they're out, which may not be for hours. You also usually do homework at different times, which cuts away even more time to chat or video call.
Those are only the struggles related to time zones. There’s a whole nother batch of struggles that come with moving in general. Whether you became BFFs through church, school or living on the same block, you don’t have that in common anymore. You can rant about the new kid in town or a particularly annoying teacher, but alas, they lack the context that really fuels your rant. They can tell you all about an awesome new event your church is hosting, but you won’t be attending it with them. It’s rather sad.
But have hope! Even though there are a host of troubles, do not be dismayed! Remember, you guys are best friends! It takes a lot to change that. Even though you might have scheduling struggles, it only makes the time you guys get to connect all the more special. Even if your friend becomes disconnected from y’all’s hometown, you can be the string that keeps them grounded to their roots. And if you move, you get to share all your new adventures will your BFF back home, giving them a bigger view of the world.
Long story short, sometimes it’s easy to become overwhelmed by leaving our best friends. Just remember: there’s always a bright side and you can get through this. And don’t be afraid to reach out and make new friends!
