Introverts, specifically INFJs, are not incredibly common; therefore, it is not always that we are understood.
Common characteristics of introverts, especially INFJs:
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1. One of our favorite things in the world is loving people, but we are equally terrified of initiating conversation, at the same. Oh, the irony.
2. Surface conversations are brutal. We crave embracing the deeper side of life. We are so viscerally aware of the complexity of human nature, and that is the conversational component we really want to jump to. It may sound rather strange, but sorry, it's mostly true! We like to form relationships with people on a level that transcends that which is associated with the superficial masks people too often put on.
3. When we love people, we love them deeply. We show that we care through hugs, helping, and our undivided attention.
4. Sometimes it is quite a challenge to accurately and effectively articulate our thoughts verbally. Pen and paper, plus a bit of time to think? No big deal. When it comes to the art of spoken word, however, chaos often ensues. We formulate in-depth, eloquent responses inside of our heads, but when the actual moment comes to respond, seldom will any of it come out in the manner in which we intended. Sometimes, it will not make much sense, and unfortunately, when this happens, we reflect and reanalyze the failure far too long. This is a cycle, and because it yields no reinforcement, but rather punishment (embarrassment and shame), it is likely for subsequent conversational withdrawal to occur--at least that which is involuntary. This is why we do not like do be called out in a classroom-type setting. We need adequate preparation time, but also would prefer to write a response.
5. Our thoughts are not commonly linear.
6. Sometimes we remember small details about people. But because this may seem creepy to others who may not understand the brain of an introvert, we "forget," when reminded.
7. Yes, awkwardness is inevitable. Just embrace it.
8. We love giving compliments, but get really uncomfortable and embarrassed when receiving them. Don't expect a typical reaction. Just know that it is appreciated.
8. We love to listen. It is typically preferred over speaking. If you need to vent, we are your people.
9. Constant interaction can be mentally draining. When we turn things down, it is usually not because we do not like you. Time alone to recuperate is essential, though, and a priority for most introverts.
10. Quietly observing--that's our style.
11. Our minds are mysterious and perplexing places. So many thoughts, all the time--it is certainly loud in there. What goes on is often inexplicable--even for ourselves.
