For most people chaos is too much for them to handle. It distorts their soul to an enduring, traumatic state that is so fragile it breaks when someone barely whispers. It is a trauma that haunts them; creeping through their mind in the middle of the night. Then there is that one person that thrives and grows in the chaos that destroys the other people. That one person that comes out of tragedy stronger and more alive. They learn to crave chaos to feel at home, to breathe a breath of fresh air in the midst of disaster.
I am not saying that they create chaos but that they are a diamond in the rough, the one we single out as a hero. The one that becomes addicted to chaos. For example, take a soldier that just got back from a war zone and is trying to assimilate into normal life again. They sometimes can't because they have been trained in war, in chaos. From what I understand, a lot of the men and women say that civilian life is too calm and that they are hypersensitive to their environment. Everything poses a threat because that is how it was. I like to translate this into there is a lack of chaos for them to function. Our heroes have survived a tidal wave of stress and then we expect them to assimilate back to "normal" life. To them chaos had become normal. It had become war!
Okay, maybe you are thinking well that is a soldier; that is just a hard job and it is an isolated incident. Well my friends, it is not. Doctors, nurses, victims of violence, gangs, kids and teens are all people that can thrive in the chaos of their work and life. The high stress environments they live and breathe in become their normal. This new normal dictates their life outside of their job or when they are not immersed in chaos. That normal makes it hard to thrive with their previous normal that was calm and innocent. That nurse who works in the emergency room and has a patient code (their heart stops and the medical team preforms CPR) four times before finally dying--that situation can take a toll on that nurse and wear him down. Or maybe he is one of the few where that is when he reaches his potential and where he learns that he can make a difference.
Jim Morrison once said, "I'm interested in anything about revolt, disorder, chaos, especially activity that appears to have no meaning. It seems to me to be the road toward freedom." Does our hero find freedom in chaos? So my point to you reader, is that some people thrive in chaos and need to be there to feel worthy, and some cannot handle the stress. Do not judge those that have a hard time assimilating to a new normal because you don't know how chaotic their last normal was.