Too many people have a negative outlook on singleness and I am here hoping to change that. First, let me say that I get it. I understand that singleness can be lonely at times, but it shouldn't be the majority of the time. Hopefully, these tips will help to lead you so that you can thrive in your singleness. If someone asked me what I am good at, I am almost positive that I could say being single.
But here's the truth: I haven't always been that way and you don't have to continue to be that way.
The beauty of singleness is that it is a learning and growing season, so you can learn how not to dread being the third wheel, going to parties dateless, or becoming bitter when all your friends seem to be entering a relationship around you. The best thing about singleness is that even though the world may tell you that it can hold you back from becoming all that you were meant to be, the truth is that the only thing holding you back is yourself. So, change your focus and get out there and thrive.
1. Know Who You Are
This is a time to learn who you are. What do you like to do for fun? Are you a hard-worker? Do you value honesty? What are your pet peeves? Take the time to know yourself, because once you know who are, then you can know what you want.
2. Build Your Team
It would be wise to identify who is on your team. When I say "team," I mean the very people that you do life with. You need people that love you for you, speak nothing but encouragement toward you, and can also be honest with you.
3. Reconcile Other Relationships
If you have some relationships (friends, family, exes, etc.) in your life that are not completely healed, then you need to take this opportunity to mend these relationships. Why would you seek out another relationship to place in your life with the chance that it too, could leave you heartbroken. If you don't take the time to heal, then you may damage the next relationship.
4. Set Goals
This is so very important. You need to set goals and actually achieve them. Goals, like relationships, take hard-work and consistency. It's best to develop these characteristics now rather than later.
5. Define Your Dreams
What are your dreams in life? Do you have dreams? If money was not an issue, then what would you do? If you can define your dreams then trust me, it fixes your focus on other important things besides finding someone to date.
6. Take Care Of Yourself
Exercise, get your nails done, get a fresh haircut, learn to floss, and keep your eyebrows on fleek.
7. Explore And Travel
I had to mention explore because sometimes you can't afford to travel around the world. If you can travel to new places, then travel the world, but if you can't, then explore your city. Find new coffee shops, running trails, and the perfect place to read a book. In short summary, get out of your house and thrive.
8. Serve
Learn to have a heart for serving by serving at an event, serve at your church, or simply just serve the people around you.
9. Develop A Work Ethic
The one negative outlook on singleness is that your life doesn't began until you find someone. This is the furthest thing from the truth. I have a problem with this outlook, because it almost gives single people an excuse to be lazy. Live your life in the now moments and learned to work hard regardless of what you may or may not have.
10. Invest In New Friendships
Get out and meet new people.
11. Keep In Touch With Old Friends
I have seen too many times that people get in relationships and then completely disregard their friends. Take this time to know that you actually have the time to keep in touch with old friends. Don't waste the time that you have been given.
12. Get Involved
Don't just sit at home. Get involved and use your talents.
13. Find A Hobby
Try new things and fall in love with an activity that can help you escape from time to time.
14. Pursue Your Passions
What are you passionate about? Please, recognize that the sky is the limit and you can pursue whatever you want. I am not saying that you can't do that in a relationship, but there is a lot more freedom in singleness.
15. Focus On The Positives Of Being Single
You should literally list out the reasons why singleness is good thing. Even if you may not feel the joy in your singleness you can still recognize why singleness is a wonderful season.
