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Those Aren't Mixed Signals, You're Just In Denial

If he/she is sending you mixed signals, that is a message in itself.

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Those Aren't Mixed Signals, You're Just In Denial
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Let me guess. You met someone whom you share an immediate connection with. You're fixated with the idea that he/she could be interested, but they haven't made their move yet. You're not sure if you're wasting your time since there's reason to believe they are into you, but they won't act on it.

If he/she is sending you mixed signals, that is a message in itself.

You shouldn't be clouded with confusion. What he says, how he says it; those are signals that should not be deciphered. Trying to "understand" what he/she meant by asking friends, or looking online, will land you to the same answer. You'll constantly latch onto the parts you desire to happen and disregard the truth.

Not to be blunt, but he/she is just not that into you.

Let's say a guy meets a girl he finds cool and attractive. He decides to pursue her. He enjoys hanging out with her, but he may string her along as he moves on to other conquests. Or maybe he's just nervous and is unsure of how you feel, so he backs off until you show interest. He's open to exploring and seeing how things go, but she is not his top priority. He's into her, but not the "I need her now" feeling. Now, this is where girls fall into trouble. They either waste their time analyzing the guys behavior and contemplate how he feels about them, or they drive themselves to insanity as to what they did wrong and how they always screw it up.

Now, aren't you sick of the constant hot and coldness? Where you're sure they are interested by either what they say to you, or to someone else, and yet there's no progress? They say they want to spend more time with you, yet when the time comes, they do a 360 on you and turn the other way. It's the standard he said one thing, but did another. Now he/she has your mind circling around the idea that they may be into you, but their actions say otherwise.

So, where do you go from here?

I'll tell you what to do. Wake up and realize you're worth so much more than what he/she is handing to you. If he was iffy from the start, there wasn't anything there to begin with. His ambivalence is unfair to you, and you should never settle for a string along. Just because they're unsure of their feelings does not mean they can play you until they have it figured out. You deserve the world, and if he doesn't see that, than you have your answer.

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