"You remind me of my mother."
Wait, those aren't words you want to hear from your boyfriend or husband? After reading this, you might change your mind. There is a deeper meaning to those words, you just have to look for it. After paying attention what he says when he tells you that, you may be surprised at what you realize.
The similarities between you and his mother mean so much more to him than you know. Girls, think about it. Guys, take notes.
Comfort.
In a world as big and scary as ours, a little boy only has a couple things to look to for comfort. One is his father and the other is his mother. A mom is a source of comfort and protection, while a dad is someone to look up to as an example of who to be. Because of this difference, a son always goes to his mother when in need of comfort. So when you play with your man's hair or scratch his back, just know that you're comforting him in a way that reminds him of his mom and childhood.
Setting an example.
The saying "A man looks for a woman who reminds him of his mother" is true for the following reason. A mom is the first example a boy gets of what a woman is and should be. The way a mother acts toward her son is the way he will expect any woman to act toward him. When you're making sure your guy doesn't step out of line and all he can say is, "You're just like my mom," don't get offended. If he says that, you know you're treating him right.
Love.
Whether it is apparent from the get-go that your man loves his mother more than anyone or it takes you a while to realize, it is true. This woman comforted him when needed, took care of him when sick, and never thought of herself in the process. She loves him unconditionally and he loves her the same in return. When he tells you that you remind him of his mom, don't take it lightly. It means he loves you like that, and the best you can do is love him the same.
Advice.
Throughout his life, your man has turned to his mother for advice on cooking, his health, cleaning, etc. This means that when he asks you so many questions you feel like your head might explode, he is just turning to you like he would to his mother. Again, you should feel special.
If you hear those six words from your man, just smile and say, "Thank you." He means well, and now you know EXACTLY what he means when he says it.
