It seems to be looked down upon to be single, to be "alone". Many of us are in search for someone to love and someone who is going to love us; someone who is going to pay attention to us and to make us feel special. Even though sometimes, we settle. We settle so we have the comfort of just having someone and to not be alone. We may know that at the end of the day we deserve better, but we are too scared to be alone and find no one else that we don’t let go.
I’m not willing to settle. I have one life to live and that life is too short to waste. I am waiting to find the love of my life, no matter how long it may take.
I am waiting for the man who isn’t trying to change me. I want to feel as if I am loved completely for who I am. The simple things, like how I snort when I laugh, how I bite my bottom lip when I’m thinking about something or how I twirl my hair when I’m nervous. I want to not only be accepted at my absolute best but also when I’m at my worst. I’m not perfect and I don’t expect him to be, either.
I am waiting for the man who has the same values as me. I am not going to compromise what I believe in and what I stand for, just as I wouldn’t expect him to, either. Values can tell a lot about someone’s character and when they match with yours, it can avoid a lot of potential conflicts. I am not willing to negotiate my value on family and having children. I am not willing to negotiate my value on being a lover of Jesus and accepting others as who they are.
I am waiting for the man who makes me a top priority in his life. I want to feel as if I am not just there when it’s easy for him, but also when it’s extremely difficult but he still puts in the effort to make it work.
Honest love is more important to me than any amount of money ever will be. If I have a man who is devoted, loyal, honest, caring and kind and who loves me entirely (and I love him entirely too, of course), that is all I could ever wish for. Money may be able to bring you temporary happiness, but a true love can bring you a lifetime of happiness.
I have always had a fear of being alone, most likely because I never really have been. Being alone is needed so I can figure out who I am and so I can be directed toward the right person, rather than wasting my time on those who never intended to stay in my life. When it is the right time, the right man will walk into my life when I least expect it. I promise that man that I will love him entirely, on his best days and his worst. I will love the things that make him different. I will be devoted, loyal, honest, caring and kind. I will accept him for who he is. My love won’t be based on the amount of money he has or what he can buy me but rather how he treats me. That, I can promise. Everything great takes time. You cannot rush into something that is meant to last. I’m okay with waiting until the right man walks into my life.