When someone you knew or a family member suddenly passes it may seem like there is void within your life. These trials and tribulations will bring people together and make you see the people who really care about you. I have been in this position all week and through my experience I have noticed a lot of things I passed over before the news.
Many people experience sadness and grief in different ways. Usually due to the sudden nature of an unexpected death many people stay in shock for a while. For myself I didn't believe he was really gone or that he wasn't going to call and say he was fine. So until I went to the celebration of his life I hadn't cried until I was with his family. My mother on the other hand broke down immediately from the grief. The catharsis that was felt through everyone at the celebration helped people release or cope with the emotions building up over the week
Support through moments like this through life is very important. No one should have to experience this alone. Whether it be a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, or even a group of people who you trust to help you through it all. Take every step day by day and don't be afraid to get help. I was happy I was able to make it home to be with family during this time. It may seem impossible to get over the pain of losing someone, but it isn't impossible. Letting go can be the worse but you don't have to let go of the happy, joyous memories. Actually now it is better to hold on to them and keep them close to your heart. Smiling, laughing and reminiscing can help with the coping process. If you take energy and convert it into a positive solution then the healing will be more beneficial than a destructive route.
Though it is hard to accept the present for what it is with the person you loved and admired gone remembering to keep your chin up and head high is what is truly important. If you need a hug or support your family and friends are always there for you. The friends or family who aren't there for you are not healthy to keep. Know that you are never alone. Remember this isn't goodbye, but rather it is see you later alligator...
