I think one of the hardest things to let go of is something that we know will never work, but desperately want. Every girl has that one guy. The one you see so much potential in, yet disappoints us over and over again. The you're the only one claimer when we both know it's not true, and the I'm just not ready for a relationship claimer. It's the guy that no matter what he remains in the back of your mind. It is so hard to be just friends with him because it felt so good to be more.
But he doesn't treat you like he should. He doesn't want to know about your day, he is not interested in what makes you tick. He is just superficial, he wants no true relationship with you.
The day you finally realize he's no good, you start to see exactly what it is you want in not just 'a guy' but the guy.
I need someone who is obsessed with me. Not in the petty, 'you can't do this or that' way, but in a way where I know he is in love with me. I should not have to second guess for even the slightest moment on his feelings for me. He should let me know daily that he loves me. Even the parts of me he doesn't really like, he should love. I want someone to look at me when I am endlessly talking and being the queen of sass and just love me, for me.
I need someone who prays for me, and with me. I want to know that he loves God, so much more than he loves me. I want him to push me forward in my faith, not hold me back. I want him to be so fearlessly in love with our Christ. I want to pursue God daily with him. I want to love and be loved like Christ.
I need someone who accepts how crazy I can get, and helps me calm down when I am stressed out about little things. I need a supporter, encourager, and lover.
I know it may sounds as if I am being picky but chivalry isn’t dead ladies, our standards are. We should want these things for ourselves because we deserve it.
Nevertheless, don’t forget that this guy deserves someone to love them this way too. They need all these things as well. Be kind, be thoughtful, and help this guy build don’t tear him down. Love like you also want to receive love. Don’t worry about the outward appearance and how cute your Instagram pictures could be. Be concerned about the heart and soul of this guy. That is when you will find respect.
Sure I joke with my girlfriends about a 6'3" guy with luscious hair, but that is not what is important to me. Being treated right is. That’s what that wrong guy taught me. I should not have to beg for respect, or demand to be treated like a freakin' lady.
This guy, the right one, he will want to be this for me. That’s why I’m not wasting another second on the wrong guy, but thank you for reminding me to look for my own self-worth.
So here I am, I’ll be patient. I’m waiting for this guy. The guy.
