Have you ever wondered what makes other people tick? What is it that gives them their quirks? ISFJ stands for Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, and Judging and is one of sixteen personality sets possible in Myers Briggs' personality test. ISFJs are both not easy to handle, and yet could become some of the best, most loyal people you could have in your life. So, before becoming friends with or dating an ISFJ, here is a list of things to remember.
1. We HATE confrontation and conflict
ISFJs absolutely hate when conflict happens, even when it is inevitable. We are much more content with the prospect of carefully avoiding the problem and hoping it soothes over, although this probably isn't the best game plan to have. So,don't be surprised if we are trying to avoid something; it's just the type of people we are.
2. Positive reinforcement is vital
Even when we know we are doing something right, we feel 120% better when someone tells us that we are on the right track. With that being said, we also try to surround ourselves with optimistic people. We can be pessimistic at times, and it is nice to have an optimist around to try to help pick us up when we're feeling down.
3. ISFJs appreciate routine and having a set schedule, although it's nice to mix it up sometimes
It is always so nice to wake up every day and have an idea of how the day is going to go. Although a set schedule is not as easy as it was in high school, ISFJs appreciate having their weeks set up in similar ways so that they know what they have to do every day.
4. Putting others before ourselves is very common in the life of an ISFJ
ISFJs always put others ahead of themselves. They are arguably the most selfless people you will meet. Most would go to the extreme of taking a bullet for someone they care about. This can be a really good quality for ISFJs, but also a bad one at times. When trying to handle this aspect of an ISFJ, try not to get too annoyed, because they really are only like this because they love and care about you.
5. ISFJs are very nurturing
Our maternal instincts are very strong, and we always feel the need to help when it seems like someone is down, even if we don't even know them. It's almost as if we were born to care for others and build them up so they can live up to the infinite amount of potential they have. This is something we take a lot of pride in, so try not to get too frustrated if we ask "Are you okay?" a lot.
6. ISFJs are workhorses, and take their work very seriously
For an ISFJ, it is so much more fulfilling to get something because it took a lot of work to achieve it, and we did it. Getting things handed to us is just not our style. And when we want something, you better believe we will work our butts off to get it.
7. Loyalty is something we take a lot of pride in
We are extremely proud of being very loyal, and also content in knowing that we are loyal. ISFJs would literally take a bullet for someone they care about, which can't be said about a lot of people. If you want someone around that is going to be there for you through thick and thin, find an ISFJ.
8. Self-confidence is something ISFJs struggle with
It is common to hear an ISFJ say something negative about his or herself. They usually do not see how great they truly are, and they may need to be reminded from time to time, even though they may not believe what you say.
9. Saying no is a struggle
ISFJs could easily be considered push overs. Even if they don't want to agree to do something, they do. This goes hand in hand with always putting others before themselves, and just shows that they are willing to do anything someone they cares about wants them to.
10. An ISFJ is the best companion you could ask to have with you throughout this crazy thing called life
There are no better people to have by your side to laugh with, cry with, and make memories with that will last a lifetime.
