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19 Things I Have Learned In 19 Years

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19 Things I Have Learned In 19 Years
Kyle Bianchi

As I am coming upon my last year as a teenager (yikes I'm old) I have found myself reflecting on my life. There are many things that I have been taught, by friends and family, as well as some lessons that have come out of the many mistakes that I have made. Here are the 19 things that I have learned in 19 years:

1. If you have to choose between being respected or liked, chose respect.

At the end of the day, you will be a much happier and better person if you stick to your values and beliefs rather than just giving into other peoples wants in order to have them like you.

2. Don't say you're sorry unless it is actually your fault.

I have always been the one to just immediately respond with an "I'm sorry" if anything is going wrong. But what I have realized is that I have no need to say I'm sorry if something that has happened is going wrong and I had nothing to do with it.

3. It is okay to ask for help.

Honestly, I'm still working on this one, but I have really started to realize that asking for help is very important especially since starting college this year. I have had to get help in my classes as well as the occasional call to mom or dad because sometimes adulating can be confusing.

4. Don't be afraid to find a new group of friends.

At the age of 16, I decided that I did not like the person I had become around the friends I had and took a big step away from them. For a while, it was hard because I felt quite lonely, but I eventually found friends who, like me, were motivated students and they are still my best friends to this day.

5. Never settle.

It is okay to move on and not just settle for the situation you are in. Whether that be in school or a relationship, never be worried to go out and look for bigger and better things.

6. Don't let your friends dictate your opinions of something or someone.

Do your own research and develop your own opinions, it will make you a better person in the long run.

7. You'll never have more time than you do right now.

I know that at times you feel like there is no way your life could get busier, but let's be honest, as you get older your free time diminishes. Make sure you schedule out time to just relax and hang out with your friends.

8. If something is your fault, own up to it.

It might be scary owning up to a mistake, but mistakes are the best way to learn and grow as a person.

9. Give back whenever possible.

Nothing will make you appreciate your life more than giving back to your community or to a cause that is important to you.

10. Don't jump to conclusions.

I do this a lot and it is a major thing that I am working on. When hearing about something it is important to step back and look at the situation from all angles because you never know what you could be missing.

11. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

This is simple, just be kind because you don't know what someone else is going through.

12. If you can't afford to pay cash, you can't afford it.

Saving is important, so is knowing what you can afford and what you can't. This life lesson will surely help once you have to start making the bigger purchases in life such as a car and a house.

13. You don't always have to have the last word.

My mom would disagree with the fact that I have learned this lesson at times. However, over the past year, I have definitely learned that sometimes it is best just to end an argument before things get out of control.

14. Stepping out of your comfort zone is the best thing.

I have made some of my best friends and have had some of the most amazing experiences in my life just by taking a chance and stepping out of my comfort zone.

15. Put your phone on Do Not Disturb or just turn it off.

I know this seems like a foreign concept to most millennials but honestly, I am never as relaxed as I am when my phone is not constantly going off.

16. Reading is the best pastime.

The best way to become more knowledgeable is to read, plus it's a much cheaper way to travel.

17. Keep in touch with your core group of friends.

This is especially important when coming to college or moving away from your hometown. It is so important to keep in contact with your friends from back home because, trust me, they help with the homesickness.

18. Winning isn't always the best thing.

You learn the most not from your wins but from your losses.

19. Dedication is important.

Put your heart mind and soul into something and it will surely pay off in the long run.

Sometimes I don't always follow my own advice and forget some of these lessons that I have learned. However, over the next coming year I am striving to be a better person and go out of my teens with a bang!

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