I know this is a hot topic nowadays. With many men objectifying women and sexually assaulting women — it's hard to not talk about this. And while I know for a fact there are many, many good guys out there who respect women, this article is written for all the rest of y'all that still need to learn a thing or two.
1. Touching us without our permission
This is probably the biggest one on this list merely because it has never been and will never be OK in any circumstance. Consent is what you need for every move you make in our relationship.
If you're scared of being rejected, maybe you shouldn't f*cking touch us in the first place.
2. Sending d*ck pics
Why? Just why?
I have yet to have met a girl who has genuinely wanted a dick pic, let alone asked for one. If your girl asks for one, by all means, dick pic away. But until you get that consent, it is staying in your pants and away from your camera. At the end of the day, it just makes you look desperate and annoying.
3. Not understanding what "no" means
This one isn’t even that hard to understand.
If we say we’re not interested or that we don’t want to send you a nude or that we don’t want to have sex, STOP trying to make it happen. Just please. Save your energy and move on.
4. Agreeing with everything we say
I get it - most of the time we're right and know what we're doing, but there are some moments when all we want is for you to make a decision or challenge what we say. We are human and won't always be right, and most of the time, if you have a point, we'll appreciate the challenge/decision-making on your part.
5. Asking if it's "that time of the month" when we're being difficult
Not only is it just rude, but it's also an insult. "That time of the month" is associated with being mean and bitchy, and by inferring that, you've basically just called us a bitch.
6. Playing the texting game
If you see a girl text you and wait a few hours to respond on purpose, you're doing it wrong, and you're playing a game we hate. It's really not that hard to text us, and if you really don't want to, just tell us you're busy and will talk to us later. It really beats waiting around for a text.
7. Refusing to talk about your feelings
This a frustrating one, mainly because it helps everyone if we're just open and honest with each other from the get-go. We understand it takes time to open up to someone, but if you're in a relationship with someone, it can help build the relationship by showing each other your vulnerable sides every once and a while. We all have some sort of baggage, and we appreciate it when you show us that side of you instead of trying to hide it.
8. Forgetting/not caring about your personal hygiene
No brainer, but for all of you guys that still do this - please, for the sake of everyone around you but especially us, brush your teeth regularly, shave if you need to, shower, use deodorant. If we can shave our legs and keep clean for you, you can sure as hell do it too.
9. Ignoring my needs
In terms of the bedroom, ignoring my needs is definitely a no-go. If I'm not having fun, then sure as hell you ain't having fun.
10. Spitting
If you have something in your mouth, either take a sip of water or spit when no one can see or hear you. It's disgusting when I'm walking next to someone who you can hear hack and then spit something nasty on the ground. Just keep that shit to yourself in the bathroom or when I'm not with you.
11. Messing with my hair
Playing with my hair affectionately is a little different than messing with my hair like you would with a little kid. I put time and effort to make my hair look nice and presentable, but when you rub your hands through it and shake it all around, it messes it up and we feel like a mess. If you want to play with our hair, do it in a cute and delicate way that won't leave us looking like we were just in a wind tunnel.
12. Hooking up with your ex's best friend/sister/friend/cousin/etc.
This one's kind of self-explanatory and straightforward.
As long as we have feelings for you, anyone you touch after us will be tainted in our minds. So please don't ruin our relationships with our friends/sisters/etc and just stick to hooking up with strangers.
13. Lying
Lying is never okay. Even if it's to "protect" us, that's just your own way of getting around telling us something you don't want us to know. We're girls -- we will literally find out in the end, so might as well save us the pain of having to search for it and tell us now.
14. Asking for a threesome
I had a boyfriend in high school, who would constantly joke about wanting a threesome. After a couple weeks of joking around, I realized he was seriously asking for one. It made me feel disgusting because I felt like he wasn't happy with having just me anymore.
While some girls may be into that type of an experience, most girls aren't.
15. Letting your relationship get boring
In reality, this falls in both of our hands since we're in this relationship together. But that means that it's also your job to not let this happen. Whether that means sprucing up where we go on dates, changing up our sex positions, going on a vacation -- there are endless ways to spice things up and not let your relationship get boring.
16. Trying to change us
We will change when we feel like it. We're independent creatures just like you, so if you don't like something about us, figure out if you can live with it. If you honestly can't, tell us and we'll assess from that point on. But like anyone, you can't change us just as we can't change you.
17. Taking advantage of how nice we can be
Girls are inherently nice people (most of us at least). We'll look out for your best interest with most instances and will genuinely care about everything you have to say. The hard thing about this can be that some guys can take advantage of our innate niceness. Like if we offer you head once, that doesn't mean we want to do it every time. Nice people have a harder time saying no, so if we're not super adamant about our yes, take a second to make sure we're saying yes.
