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11 Things To Understand About Your S.O., Whose Love Language Is Primarily Quality Time

What's your love language?

Lauren McCally

Feb 19, 2020

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11 Things To Understand About Your S.O., Whose Love Language Is Primarily Quality Time

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According to the best-selling book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts there are five different ways in which people like to give and receive affection towards their loved ones. This can range from physical touch and words of affirmation all the way to quality time and the things you do with your partner.

Problems can come around when you don't really have an understanding of what theirs (and even yours) is. it could be as simple as, spending a quiet day in bed with the TV on, or as complicated as going to a fancy dinner. If you or your partner's love language is quality time, here are some things to keep in mind.

You don't have to be doing anything but being in the same room as them and they are happy

I meant it you could literally just be sitting in silence and they would be happy because you are there. In short, they want YOU.

It's the little things that are important

Maybe that's making dinner (or dessert), helping out with work, or even going for a walk. You're SO just wants to spend time with you.

It doesn't need to be a long moment, just enough to show them that they matter

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Everyone wants to know like they matter, especially by the ones they love (and that love them).

Make time for them

Continually blowing someone off whose love language is quality time communicates to them that you are no longer interested or as invested as they are.

Listen when they are speaking

Honestly, this is something you should do no matter what your SO's main love language is, but it is especially important to those who value quality time.

Be there for them

When times are good and when times are bad and when times are bad, be there for them a little bit more. Trust me, they love it.

They don't really need gifts or words

Those things are nice (and loved) on occasion, but not a necessity for someone who leans more towards quality time.

Ask them how their day was

When Nick does this with me, it is usually one of the best parts of the day (even if all I say is good). It shows that he (or she) cares about you and wants to know how you've been.

If busy, find small ways to spend time with them

Often times, Nick and I don't have time to see each other during the week, so we spend time together on the weekends and whenever else we can (mostly between classes).

Ultimately, they just want your undivided attention

No matter what you're doing.

Remember: No one speaks just one love language

Yes, their main one is most likely quality time, but that doesn't mean it's the only way for you to show that you love them. For example, my other main two (besides quality time) are physical touch (which for the people that know me is probably surprising) and acts of service.

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11 Things To Understand About Your S.O., Whose Love Language Is Primarily Quality Time

What's your love language?

You don't have to be doing anything but being in the same room as them and they are happy

It's the little things that are important

It doesn't need to be a long moment, just enough to show them that they matter

Make time for them

Listen when they are speaking

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They don't really need gifts or words

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Ultimately, they just want your undivided attention

Remember: No one speaks just one love language

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5. Thank you for all the movie days when we don’t feel like moving.

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7. Thank you for sharing your closets with me.

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9. Thank you for cleaning our home with me when we absolutely need to.

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15. Thank you for not judging me when I go too long without showering.

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