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It's OK To Choose Your Boyfriend Over Your Girlfriends

Who says you can't have the best of both worlds?

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It's OK To Choose Your Boyfriend Over Your Girlfriends
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Apparently, it's a crime these days to pick your boyfriend over your friends. I mean c'mon we're growing up; it's time to stop acting like a child, ladies!

Falling in love with your best friend is such a great feeling they are supposed to make you laugh, make you feel like you're not faking, and literally make you want to be around them every second you get.

If you do not understand any of that then you are living under a rock or you are really just too immature and shouldn't be dating.

Don't get me wrong, if you haven't found someone you can't see your life without I totally get it! But, don't shame your friend for wanting to watch a movie with that special person rather than throwing up in the toilet because they took ten too many shots. Don't shame them because they can't change their plans last minute to go hang out. Don't shame them because they can't have a 'girls weekend' because they now live with their significant other. Don't shame them for wanting to settle down with them rather than going out with a different guy every night. Don't shame them for being ready for the next big step in their relationship rather than starting a new one every other month.

Just because they aren't hanging out with you whenever you want does not mean they don't care about you anymore, I'm sure they care about you more than you care about them.

If you were in a serious relationship I'm sure you wouldn't be doing the things you are trying to get them to do. No one likes a hypocrite, sweetie.

Stop shaming girls and calling them "weak" because they are in love. Stop wishing they'd just "break up" so you can have your fun partying best friend back. Stop telling them how much they changed because odds are they haven't changed, it's actually you that has changed. You are now bitter, jealous, and rude all because they now have a significant other. As my mother says, Don't be a Nancy.

I can guarantee you when you need her for whatever reason it is, she will be there regardless.

Just do me a favor and stop hating on the ladies who are best friends with their boyfriends, stop trying to make us feel guilty for having the best of both worlds.

There's absolutely no reason everyone can't hang out together. Just because we add a new and important person into our lives does NOT mean we subtract another one from it. I just feel that each individual holds a very special and unique place in our lives, there's just certain things one person provides to us that another doesn't.

For example, and read this very carefully or screen shot this if you must but.....Fellas, you are NOT dating your mother or your best guy buddy! We do NOT want to cater to your every whim. We do NOT want to pat your back or rub your tummy when it hurts. Calling us dude, bro or bud earns you absolutely zero brownie points. There really is a separation line when it comes to any type of relationship, so people really need to recognize this and simply just get it together.

Ladies, don't feel like just because your number one gal pal is no longer Single Sally, that you've been replaced, after all, there are just some things we don't want to tell our boyfriends, not that we can't we just don't want to.

So if your friendship with one another is genuine and surrounded by loyalty you'll never have to defend it! Sit back, pay attention and analyze things because the important people in your life who care unconditionally never have to fight for a position to be in it.

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