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The Truth About Falling Out of Love

Everyone wants to talk about the beautiful couples that seem to have it all but no one wants to talk about the real and ugly truth.

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A young girl dreams about walking down the aisle almost her entire life to meet the love of her life at the end. Someone who is absolutely awestruck and mesmerized by their partner. Love is something that happens all the time, every day to someone new. But the sad truth that comes with that is people are just as easily able to fall out of love.

Everyone wants to discuss "relationship goals" and the perfect couples but they never want to talk about the difficult subjects. Something that I think rarely gets vocalized but needs to in today's world is it's okay to fall out of love with someone. I am a strong believer in soulmates and I do think that their is someone out their for everyone. But I also believe that you can fall in love with someone who is not "the one." Sometimes this is a difficult concept to grasp. You can be with someone for years and suddenly realize that they aren't the one you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with. This is so incredibly difficult because no one wants to break the heart of someone they once loved and still care for, which is understandable. However, there is one thing I cannot justify: it IS okay to fall out of love but it is NOT okay to continue on in the relationship.

Do not settle because it is safer. Do not settle because it's easier. Do not settle because it's something you're familiar with. Do not settle because you think no one else will love you. Sometimes the least safe things will bring you the greatest amounts of happiness.

The best piece of advice that I can share with you is this: If you know they are not the one, let them go. You may still love them but that doesn't mean that they are the one for you. If you truly cared for this person, you would want them to find the same kind of love that they feel for you from someone else. It's not easy. In fact, letting someone that you love go is probably one of the hardest things a person has to do in life BUT it's the right thing. Let your partner find someone that is going to feel the same way as they do.

It's not fair to them that they don't have someone who can share the same level of affection and it's not fair to you because you deserve to be insanely happy and in love as well.

You cannot deny your own happiness for the rest of your life. It's not selfish of you to let someone go if they aren't the one for you. Don't drag on something that you know isn't right. You WILL find someone even if it seems like there is no one else.

So please: do not deny yourself finding the one for you because you think life will be simpler. I can guarantee that life will NOT be simpler. Your relationship will not be simpler. Everything, in fact, will be more difficult because you aren't meant to be with one another. Your partner will move on. You will move on and eventually you will find someone that you want to see on your wedding day. Stop being afraid and let yourself be happy. Stop being afraid and let yourself find "the one."

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