Most people identify with being a extrovert or an introvert. Extroverts are people who normally gain their energy from being around people and are generally seen as very outgoing, life of the party type folk, where as introverts are people who generally see themselves as people who gain their energy from being away from people and by themselves. While no person fits completely into one of these two groups, most people can be clearly seen as a introvert or an extrovert. While outgoing introverts are actually becoming the norm, there is a forgotten group of people know as the shy extroverts. While it may seem impossible for this to be real, some extroverts can actually be fairly quiet and not typical "life of the party" types. Here are some traits that may be prevalent to a shy extrovert.
1. You avoid small talk like it's the plague
You just can't help but feel drained whenever people give the typical "hey, how are you?" phrase and then just stop right there. Small talk to you should be like the gateway to more and better quality conversation and shouldn't be just a quick question. Plus, small talk just doesn't cut it for you. It doesn't stimulate you and there's just not very many good reasons to continue it. You understand that it has it has importance when you are learning about someone or when speaking to strangers, but to your close friends, small talk is mundane and unnecessary.
2. You love meeting new people, just one at a time
Speaking of talking to strangers, you actually love to sit down with new people and form connections. You even put up with a little bit of small talk to do it. You have no problem making a random comment towards someone and seeing if they take the bait. However, the problem lies when there are too many new people all at once. You have no idea how to adjust yourself, your social knowledge flies out the window, and you're left stammering and awkward.
3. You consider yourself a professional daydreamer
You often get lost inside your own head quite a bit and are busy examining a situation and the thousand ways it could play out. Sometimes your mind wanders unintentionally, and all of a sudden you start being introspective about that time you accidentally spilled spaghetti on that girl in fifth grade. Not only are you a tad shy around others, but you also find yourself incredibly introspective as an extrovert.
4. You still relate to most extroverts
Your friends invite you to a road trip and you're down to go. Despite your sometimes quiet demeanor, around the right group of people you can morph into the life of the party who tells hilarious jokes and says all of these witty lines.
You're down for a adventure and life experiences and you might as well step outside to go do something besides being surrounded by books.
