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10 Struggles Of Being A Shy Extrovert

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10 Struggles Of Being A Shy Extrovert

Some people are introverts and others are extroverts. A majority of people are ambiverts, ranging somewhere in the middle of both social extremes. Of these three groups, extroverts tend to exhibit the least amount of shyness, making many interpret shyness as a symptom of introversion. However, a large dose of shy people crave heavy doses of social interaction. Here are 10 things to which these shy social people can relate (and you can use these to spot them!).

1. They text the most in group messages

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They may never actually say something to you in person because they're really too shy, but online they're like a lion loosed from the cage and ready to find some meat. The more who are in the group message, the more savage the texting...quicker, quippy replies to each conversation topic in the group.

2. They want to go out to restaurants but are too afraid to order food.

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The excitement of going out and trying out new cuisine is inexpressible! However, once the shy social butterfly has entered a restaurant, she will be unable to completely relax. This is especially true when there are waiters. The shy person will be afraid of making any social blunder, and is in constant fear of being judged by the waiter. If the waiter is especially attractive, the foods chosen may be changed sheerly to look "good" to the waiter.

3. They're Drawn to Extroverts


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After all it's not that the shy social butterfly does not enjoy being around as many people as possible, it's just that she's too afraid. Extroverts dissolve that awkward barrier keeping the shy person in a safe distance, and instead confidently invades everyone's personal space. Shy social people crave people coming and talking to them because they want to interact they're just too afraid. Extroverts not only befriend the shy person, but also give the shy person a boost of confidence when they are together at parties.

4. They have great friends that they never speak to again.

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This is especially true for those who go to a school. The shy social butterfly may have a chance to befriend someone one day, and even talk to them for hours. However, the next day when they pass by each other again, the shy person is too shy to acknowledge more than an awkward nod the person they just saw. Internally, they are wonderful friends. Externally, however, the shy person is too afraid and initiate the first word. This is extremely frustrating.

5. They are socially bipolar

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The awkwardness is especially worse because the personality changes on different days. On one day the shy person may have a boost of confidence and feel especially assertive. However, on other days that confidence has tanked and the shy person is no longer warm. This makes those friendships long to grow sometimes, but it doesn't mean that the shy social butterfly doesn't have any friends.

6. They send you friend requests after meeting you for the first time.

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Truthfully they LOVE social media. It erases awkward social barriers of and allows this type of person to be social with time constraints. Don't be surprised if you receive a friend request after 3 minutes of small talk, or if your shy social friend is always the first person to reply to your messages.

7. They dream of being on stage.

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Although most people automatically assume shy personalities prefer to be backstage, most shy people I know really dream of performing. In their mind they are constantly on stage with wild lights and a packed house, or the target of a camera lens. They're just too shy to pursue those dreams, or do them well.

8.

Their ideal friendship begins with someone coming up to them.

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Ironically, the shy social butterfly is often the one initiating friendships because they are too social to allow their shyness to keep them from any conversation in the room. The shy person usually targets a quiet person doing absolutely nothing so that she can have someone to talk to without feeling intimidated. Her dream is for someone to come up and start speaking to her like an old friend. Life would be great if everyone was assertive.


9.

Board games are life.

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They're great because they require a lot of people, but no awkward conversation.

10. If they're shy they will probably take a few months to warm up to you but afterwards they'll be your friend for life.

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It's slow making good friends for the shy social butterfly sometimes. However, it usually happens because they won't give up.
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