There is just something about those people who have their lives all together. You know what I'm talking about. They're the people who have incredibly detail-oriented, color-coordinated planners, they never lose or fail, and their social media accounts highlight their latest and greatest life moments. These people appear to have their lives planned out completely, and nothing is going to get them off track.
It is hard to believe that I can appear to "have it all together," because I know that to be so incredibly far from the truth.
I can't see the bottom of my desk drawers, and my room never fails to have a pile that I relocate from the chair, to my desk, to my dresser, depending on what I need at the time.
Yet, for some unknown reason, I appear to live the life described by the first paragraph.
Perhaps it is my color-coordinated planner and my "too positive Facebook posts," but I am everything but someone with a life tied up in a pretty, purple bow.
My life is everything but perfect, and I do not "have it all together."
I don't believe that person exists.
Some weeks my planner looks like it could be the planner of all planners. And other weeks it is completely blank because "I'll get to filling it out later." Newsflash: Once I tell myself I'll update it later, it is never, ever going to happen. And it is in those weeks that I am fretting about forgetting an important meeting or about having a huge exam I forget to schedule study time for.
I have missed meetings. I have forgotten to study for an exam until the morning of. I forgot about the scholarship application due. Oops. Life happens, right? We move on, we make it up, and life works out.
However, if you take a scroll down my social media accounts, it is true, you'll see my latest and greatest life moments. You'll see awards and recognitions, photos with some of the greatest friends I could have ever hoped for, and many, many posts attempting to always see the positive side in everything. My life is not this perfect.
I was crushed when I wasn't elected leader of an organization I am truly passionate about. I have failed friendships, and a lifetime full of bumps and bruises.
But I don't see the reason in sharing my failures and hard times through social media. Someone once told me, "There is no use in complaining on social media. That's what friends are for." Failures are times to reflect on the hardship and learn from the challenges. Venting on Facebook does nothing compared to a deep soul search or heart to heart with your closest friends.
No, you will not see that I had been turned down from more interviews than I could count or that I failed my very first college exam. You'll see the scholarship I got and the election I won, because those would not have happened had I not learned from the times I failed.
"Don't compare your behind the scenes with someone else's highlight reel."
This is by far one of my favorite quotes, and perhaps it is because my behind the scenes is absolute chaos. Curtains are torn, lights are burnt out, and the auditions are rescheduled more times than not.
So if you think I have my life all planned out, you would be completely wrong. My freshman year of college, I was required to make a four year plan in one of my classes that consisted of every class I would ever take and everything I needed to get done before I wore my cap and gown. Gosh, it was beautiful.
I now have seven different college plans saved on my computer.
I have no idea where I'm headed. Maybe, just maybe, one of those seven plans will follow through, and it will appear as if "my life went exactly as planned." Well, yes, if you make a plan for every scenario, one is bound to happen eventually. But if there is one thing college has taught me, it's that no plan will ever be perfect. It once drove me crazy that I don't just have one plan, but now I see the beauty in wonder and in letting life take its course.
I don't think any of these seven plans are my life plan. And that is OK.
I do not have my life all together. Not even close. And I smile as I write this because looking back, I would consider not having my life together the worst thing that could happen to me.
And now, here I sit, hoping that maybe, just maybe, you can connect with this too.