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To The 'Second-Guessing' Girl

To second-guess: to criticize or questions actions or decisions of someone or oneself

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To The 'Second-Guessing' Girl

You're sitting in the corner thinking, wondering, pondering, worrying, debating over whether or not you're doing the right things, saying the right words, making the right people happy. You're going over every move you've made within the last hour, second-guessing everything.

To second-guess is defined by the following: to criticize or questions the actions or decisions of someone or oneself.

And you? You're the "second-guessing" girl. The one who overthinks life. You're the girl that always does too much and then wishes she could take it back. You're the girl who tries so hard to do the right thing, then at the end of the day feels like nothing will ever be good enough. You're the one that laughs at jokes even when they're not funny, because that's what you're supposed to do, right? You're the girl that does everything she thinks she's supposed to do instead of doing exactly what she wants to do.

I see you sitting there, pretending like you have it all together. Pretending you're too confident to care—but I see through that. I see the worry on your face and the questions in your eyes. I see you questioning yourself and your abilities. I see you wondering if you're good enough. I see the concern when you think you've made someone upset. I see the sadness when you think that you've done something wrong.

I see all that and more, and there's only thing I have to say to you. Stop.

Stop worrying, stop overanalyzing, stop overthinking. Stop questioning and criticizing yourself. Stop thinking that you have to have it all together, because you don't have to—and trust me when I say no one else does. Stop thinking that you're doing something wrong, because you're not. Stop thinking that you're not good enough, because you are.

Stop putting up a wall to keep people out because you're too afraid they won't accept you. Stop holding back because you're afraid you'll be too much, because you are just enough. Stop thinking that it's a bad thing to wear your heart on your sleeve, because it's better to hurt than to feel nothing at all.

You have a smile that lights up a room. You have eyes that turn tears into laughter. You have a personality that draws people to you like kids to candy. You are kind and caring and funny and smart and you can do anything that you put your mind to.

To the second-guessing girl sitting in the corner, you are loved more than you know. You have people who care so deeply for you that they would do anything for you.

To the second-guessing girl sitting in the corner, I think you are fearless and easily inspire others to be the same.

To the second-guessing girl sitting in the corner, you have no reason to question yourself.

So stop second-guessing yourself and start realizing how truly amazing you are because, as Dr. Seuss once said, "Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter."

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