“So what friend are you in the friend group?” This is a question I was recently asked but had not ever really contemplated much. It’s definitely a valid thought and an interesting concept to explore. Friend groups are complicated but one of the best things I have in my life. They are the group of people you can be your complete self around and the closest thing to family outside your real family. They know the type of person you are and they accept you for that. Every person in your friend group has a role that it is specific to them and by some miracle, they all seem to mesh together to form the perfect group.
There is the “nice friend” who basically assumes the mom role of the friends. She takes care of everyone and is usually good for some major compliments on your going-out outfit. She will make you feel good no matter what, and let’s face it…we all love her and need her!
Then there is the “fun friend.” This is the friend that everyone wants to be, but not everyone can live up to the required standards. They are essential to every friend group and always bring the party. That is not to say that the fun one cannot be an amazing friend because realistically they are all good friends to you. The fun friend is the one everyone wants to be around and wants at a get-together before it can really be considered a true ‘party’.
Next, there is the “social director”, a role that is integral to every friend group or there would be no going out or making fun plans. Where would we be without them, besides maybe sitting home and binge watching Netflix. This person does all the planning and organizing and just expects us to show up and have fun. Basically, he or she is the best friend to have around to ensure we continue to thrive socially; the one that makes all the plans and loves having everyone over. The hostess usually falls into this category also and is ever so welcoming.
You can’t have a friend group without the “go with the flow friend.” In some cases, this is also the peacekeeper of the group. He or she is always down for all sides and makes sure the friend group is not fighting and disagreeing because that can put a damper on any social situation before it even starts. This person is always there and happy to be doing whatever, as long as they are with their friends.
Finally, you have the "buzzkill friend". I am fortunate enough to not have these people in my friend group because they might be voted out of that group quickly. Nobody needs a negative person when trying to making fun plans, so if you are that person… don’t be! We all want to be the other roles because they make us happy and if we aren’t exactly them...we definitely want to hang around WITH them!
