“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on "going it alone." Somehow we've come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we're very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It's as if we've divided the world into "those who offer help" and "those who need help." The truth is that we are both.” ― Brené Brown
The path to success is usually a road less traveled, but that road doesn't have to be walked alone. I'll be the first to say that I am guilty of pushing those away who try to help me. I pride myself in being apart of "those who offer help" category but I struggle to see myself as someone who needs help, too.
I have slowly been discovering that asking for help doesn't make me any less independent, strong, or capable. In fact, there is strength is recognizing when assistance is needed. Being someone who sees themselves as capable of almost anything, I really struggle with knowing my limitations. The hardest thing to admit is: No, I can't do it all.
Our society, especially our generation, is bent on doing it all. We want to travel the world, have a meaningful career, beautiful kids, and a house all before we're 25. The life we want to live is what we are killing ourselves for. We forget that there is beauty in the setbacks and that life isn't always measured by the goals we achieve. There is peacefulness in extending a helpful hand and not being afraid to reach out for one, as well.
Learning to balance work, school, and a social life while preserving your mental health isn't the easiest feat. I've seen the breakdowns, the stress, and the "I-can't-do-its" way too many times than I'd like to admit. Although I'm still a "yes" person, I'm learning to gauge what I can handle and what is feasible for me to accomplish.
Life is too short to be stuck in your pride. Ask for help when you need it, extend a hand to someone who won't ever ask you to, and above all, live fearlessly and without hesitation. We try too hard for perfection when most of the time the most perfect things have flaws. Don't be afraid to say "I'm overwhelmed" or "I need your help". It's too tough of a world out there to walk it alone.
