If you're a reading this, there is a chance that at some point in your life, there has been a someone who has broken your heart or hurt you. Whether it's serious or not, you are often left with a feeling of unworthiness or inadequacy. You don't have to be a sappy person or hopeless romantic to know this feeling. The "what did I do wrong?" and "why wasn't I good enough?" questions entangle your mind and create a cloud of self-doubt. It is easy to get caught up in your own vulnerability and feelings. However, there are some scattered thoughts that I think everyone should know (ones that I still struggle with), coming from someone who has been there.
You are important and worthy. There is someone out there, believe it or not, who will value you for ALL you are. Someone who will accept your personality, flaws and lifestyle. One day, you will look back and laugh at all of the people you cried over. No person, especially a love interest, should ever control your happiness. You have to create happiness within yourself and not rely on others to fulfill you. You have so much going for you. You don't need someone else to confirm that. Don't seek approval from another person to boost your confidence.
Don't settle for less. Don't settle for the person who will ignore you or who won't pay for you on dates. Avoid the person who will leave you confused and upset. Don't make accommodations for the person that will lie about their plans. It's not okay for the person you are dating to stand you up. Steer away from for the person who will make you feel guilty. Don't settle for the person who doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve.
You deserve more. You deserve the person who will do anything to make you smile. Look for someone who will put you above their own selfish desires. Go for the person who will ask you how you are doing. Be with the person who will communicate how they feel. Spend time with the person who will surprise you. You deserve the person who will appreciate you and support your endeavors.
Wait on them, and work on yourself. Wait for the right person to come along - don't chase them. Not everyone who you want to be with will want to be with you. In the meantime, focus on improving yourself. Your academics, skills and assets can always be improved upon. Instead of putting energy into a relationship that isn't worthy of you, invest in yourself.
All of these things are hard for me to tell myself, especially when I don't believe them sometimes. But I know, from those older and wiser than me, that there is someone for everyone.
