Everyone imagines their perfect kiss when they're younger. They imagine how they will be touched, how they will be held, what the kiss will feel like. Will they pull me really close and hard and surprise me? Will they be soft and careful? What should I expect?

Young girls imagine their future husbands, their weddings, their perfect romantic dates, all the way down to their very first kiss. I remember what my first kiss was imagined to be. I imagined he'd grab my hip and pull me close then place his hand against my cheek. Then slowly and gently pull my face closer to his until his lips are hovering right over mine. Then he will wait until I make the last couple inches with my lips to touch his. Our kiss would be slow and gentle. No tongue, just the gentle touch of our lips.

But like myself, most young girls are disappointed with their first kiss when it doesn't go as they dreamed it would be. The kiss gets impatient and rushed. It's rough, not gentle. Anything can make or break a first kiss.

Guys- believe it or not, the first kiss can tell a woman absolutely everything about how the relationship will go from there. Whether it'll work in the long run, or if it will flame out before either of you have a chance to fall for each other. Whether it's the first kiss she's ever had or the first kiss in that specific relationship, it doesn't matter.

Ever girl believes in the chance that her first kiss can very well be her last kiss. My first kiss gave me that impression. But when that relationship ended years later, I believed I was just naive and too young to know.

I learned from that kiss and every first kiss that followed not to expect too much from any relationship. The guy every girl dreamed of when they were younger, the fantasies we created in our young, naive minds, they don't exist.

Or do they? The man I gave my very first kiss to, that I walked away from years after, is now back at my side. We take it one day at a time, slow and gentle with every aspect of the relationship.

So what am I trying to say with this? Don't expect too much from any relationship. Don't fall too fast without knowing how to land on your own two feet without having someone to lean on.