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To The Ones Who Are Just Settling In A Relationship

You are so much better than that, even if you have been told otherwise.

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To The Ones Who Are Just Settling In A Relationship

In life, we have choices to make. We choose our reactions to situations, we choose our friends, we choose our significant others. Every choice we make in life should be choices that come from us, and not from outside forces. Sometimes, we make choices because we feel pressured to make quick decisions. Sometimes, we make decisions because we think this is the best we can do. Sometimes, we settle for what we have in a relationship without thinking what else could be.

So, why is just settling in a relationship so wrong?

What is supposed to be a positive thing in your life should never be continuous problems. If you are finding yourself dealing with things that are supposed to be positive things in your life more as problems, don’t settle.

Don’t settle for the guy who tells you you’ll never find anyone better than him because let me tell you something, you will find someone better.

Don’t settle for the guy who makes you feel ugly every day of your life because you are too scared to leave.

Don’t settle for the tears and the loneliness that should never have to happen.

Don’t settle for the forced smiles and cold hugs.

Don’t settle for the broken promises of being better in the morning.

Don’t settle for maybes and we’ll sees.

Don’t settle for giving more than receiving.

Don’t settle for the blame of all arguments and the comments about not being good enough.

Don’t settle for second place.

The thing about relationships is this: A relationship is a bond formed between two people. We form relationships with people all the time, but the relationship between you and a significant other is much different. You have to learn to put them before yourself. Do not settle for a relationship where that isn’t happening. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t put your feelings first. If you love someone, selfishness never should occur. Someone who makes you feel like second place is not attractive. Constant bitterness toward your significant other is not a “relationship goal.” A real man needs to step up and be a man, and a woman needs to understand the man will have flaws within being a man, but if he’s trying, that is more than a relationship where he’s not trying. Don’t settle for that.

Stephen Chbosky once said, “We accept the love we think we deserve.” If we are being shown this “love” for so long, we start to believe this is what we are meant to deserve, but this isn’t true. Don’t settle for a mediocre life when we are supposed to have the best life possible. Because although you have been probably told the opposite, there is someone out there for you who will show you how ridiculous you were for just settling for what you thought you deserved before. Nobody can see what you see in your own relationship. People can say what they want and have their opinions about your relationship and think negatively of you if you decide to leave that relationship, but they aren’t in it with you. They don’t see what happens behind the scenes. If you don’t feel like you are getting what you don’t deserve, don’t settle for it.

Don’t be scared to unsettle from a bad relationship for a better one. Rise above that person who is bringing you down and be bigger than them. You are so much more important than that. We all deserve to be happy, so why would you settle with someone who makes you feel less than that?

Every choice you make in your life should better your life. Don’t settle for a relationship that makes you feel less than what you really are.

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