"I do not understand why he doesn't like me and likes her..."
"I know I am not as pretty as her, but I have a lot of things to offer."
"What do they have that I do not?"
"Why can't I do anything right?"
"I just want to be accepted."
"Am I not enough?"
I heard this conversation sitting in the dining hall this week and my heart broke into one million pieces. So to the girl sitting at the table on my right, here is my advice for you.
Dear anyone who is feeling less than good enough,
First, you are more than enough so stop thinking that you are not. Psalms 139:14 proclaims that we are "fearfully and wonderfully made" and that only should leave you no room to question your self-worth. You are made with a purpose and out of beauty, and you should hold this wisdom to be true even in the darkest time.
Second, it is hard wanting someone or something and you are struggling to get them to see or find the beauty. It can be frustrating investing your time into someone or something and everything just crumbles to pieces. However, like the former First Lady, Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Don’t Let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent."
Don't let a guy or anyone determine what you think of yourself because that is when you lose the battle. If they are making you question your self-worth, it is time to move on to bigger and better things. Don't let the failure of any project determine how you live your life. Examine it as an area of growth and work to pursue it.
Stop putting your happiness in people and place it in the hands of God, and he will show you just how valuable you are. He will place the right people in your life that will continue to help pick you up on your roughest days and still love you just the same. So, wait on them and stop investing into people who could care less about you.
This hole of self-doubt is one of the worst ones to be stuck in because you feel alone, but you want someone or something to love. However, you cannot experience true love and true joy from anything in life until you learn to love yourself, and this is an easier process said than done.
For some, discovering and loving themselves takes a life time while some seem like they were born with it. But whatever the case, we all sometimes forget that we are enough, and that it's OK because we are human. But I beg you to never forget your yourself and your worth on this journey of life. You are wanted. You are valued. And most importantly, you are more than enough.
Sincerely, someone who knows what you're going through.
