Everybody has that one friend in the group that is the person to go to for words of wisdom, encouragement, or if you need a reality check. Also known as the Designated Help Friend (DHF) and can possibly be called the "Mom" of your friend group. I just so happen to be that friend of my friend group (or at least that's how I feel). Basically, you are the person your friends call if they are stuck in the middle of a dessert at 3 AM and an alien invasion is happening. I have had some friends call me crying because of having fights with their boyfriend/girl friend or maybe family issues and don't want to stay at their house. I keep my phone open in case any of my friends need me. When you're the DHF of your friend group, you have to keep an open mind about things. In high school, I was stage manager for SEVERAL productions meaning I was in charge of props, placement on stage, if everybody had their mics on, basically trying to run the show (directors did most of the work though). One of my jobs was to make sure everybody had their lines memorized, if they didn't show up for rehearsals I had to call and find out where they were (so if you ever see a high school performance and it doesn't look good just know that EVERYBODY works hard, especially musicals). I did this for 3 years and doing so, I developed a relationship with each cast of the shows I did. I had GroupMe for all the shows and had times where they would message me and need help with dances or need help with their lines and all sorts of things. I wanted to be a stage manager that was also a friend that was willing to help in whatever way possible. I still get messages from those that are still in high school to help with whatever production they are working on at the moment.

My parents raised me to be respectful and to help others. I enjoy helping others, I enjoy being there for people, but it did get to a point to where I was helping others more than I was helping myself. I have lost friends who came to me for help but did not like my advice and walked away. There is only so much you can do as the DHF and people have their own minds. Looking back at everything that has happened in my life, I am happy to be the DHF. I am happy to have made so many amazing friends. And I am happy that I have lost some too. I am a firm believer in God putting people in my life for a reason and taking people out of my life for a reason. So if you read this and realize you relate to some of what I have said, you are probably the DHF.