Ladies, growing into a real adult woman is hard.

During our college years, we have to figure out how to pay bills and cook something besides Ramen Noodles. We have to make our OWN doctor's appointments. We have to figure out how to diagnose if food is expired or not. The point is, there is A LOT to learn about becoming a functioning adult.

On top of all the real world things we have to learn, we're pressured to find our lifelong mate, procreate, and be super successful in our career. Personally, many of my friends have found their "one" and I feel pressured to find my "one." Then I remember that I still have my whole life to figure that business out and that I need to focus on loving myself and enjoying this independent chapter of my life. In the words of the RuPaul, “If you don't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” Can I get an AMEN?!

So, here are 20 songs that make me feel independent, sassy, and unstoppable! Enjoy, pals!

1. Survivor - Destiny's Child

2. Hard Out Here - Lily Allen (my JAM)

3. ***Flawless - Beyoncé

4. Masterpiece - Jessie J (absolute fave)

5. Can't Hold Us Down - Christina Aguilera ft. Lil Kim

6. Try - Colbie Caillat

7. Diva - Beyoncé

8. Beautiful Flower - India Arie (another personal fave)

9. Alive - Sia

10. I Choose - India Arie

11. Pretty Girl Rock - Keri Hilson

12. Hollaback Girl - Gwen Stefani

13. Just Do You - India Arie

14. 'Cuz I Can - P!nk

15. Q.U.E.E.N. - Janelle Monáe ft. Eryka Badu

16. Superwoman - Alicia Keys (yet another personal fave)

17. Who You Are - Jessie J

18. Do My Thang - Miley Cyrus

19. Follow Your Arrow - Kasey Musgraves

20. Dog Days Are Over - Florence + The Machine (always a fave)