When I'm dating a guy, I won't ever tell them that I need them, because I don't. I've spent the majority of my life being single, and I've done pretty well for myself on my own. I won't ever sacrifice my freedom or independence for another person. I'm not the type of person to beg for anyone's time, attention, or love, because those aren't things that should be asked for. The last thing I want is for someone to feel like they're being pressured or obligated to stay with me in a relationship. It's not healthy, and it's a waste of my time.

I'm not an inconsiderate person by any means, but I'm just not the type of girl to feel the need to check in with the person I'm dating for every little thing. To me, the best relationships come from a mutual understanding of set personal freedom. With this freedom, it sets a standard for individuals to never feel like they're never missing out on doing things they enjoy to avoid potential conflict in their relationship. Ultimately, you should never sacrifice things you want in a relationship. If there's ever a point where you feel limited or restricted by the person you're dating, then something is clearly amiss.

Being independent means being your true self, not someone else's portrayal of what you should be. When you fall for someone, it's easy to get caught up trying to prioritize their happiness. But while it may be important to keep each other happy in a relationship, it's more important to stay involved in remembering the other areas in our own lives that keep us whole. To lose and let go of these fundamental parts of life for a relationship may lead to becoming too dependent on the person you're dating.

So, understand that not everything needs to be shared. Learn how to say "No" when your significant other wants to tag along with you at a time where you would rather be alone. Talk to each other about your different interests, and watch them grow through their passions. Have separate friends, and understand that it's okay to spend time with them on your own. Fill your life with experiences beyond togetherness in a relationship. The key to a successful relationship is a bond that allows each person to evolve independently by each other's side, all while supporting each others personal interests.