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There's A Difference Between Being In Love And Being In Love With The Idea Of Love

Something very easy to confuse.. let's look at the difference.

Alix George
Feb 07, 2018
Ohio University
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There's A Difference Between Being In Love And Being In Love With The Idea Of Love
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To all of my fellow hopeless romantics out there, I get it, I feel your pain.

I've found myself in the dilemma a couple of times where I couldn't tell if I was *falling* in love with the person I was with or if I was more so infatuated with the idea of being in love with them.

Sometimes you've just got to take a step back and look at the situation and really make yourself think.

A situation that I've recently found myself in and I'm sure someone could relate to, was getting over my ex. After the breakup happened, I was hurting so much because a month after it happened, I had convinced myself that I was still in love with him. It took me two months after the break up to realize that I was more infatuated with the idea of what we used to have and who he used to be rather than with who he is now and the current situation.

A VERY current situation, I met this dude and he seemed amazing. Absolutely perfect. In my head, I made up all these scenarios and nearly convinced myself I was falling in love when realistically I was just infatuated with the idea of him and what we could be. I was in love with the idea of falling in love and I was in love with all of the made-up scenarios in my head.

Being a hopeless romantic, I fall hard or I don't really fall at all.

It sucks, but it's the way it is. Sometimes I sit back and look at myself and the situations I get myself into and just think, "Damn, Alix, you're being crazy as hell right now, huh?"

MORAL OF THE STORY: Sometimes it's very easy to get caught up in the moment and think you're feeling things that you're not. It's totally okay to think about everything before you say something wild, or think you're feeling something that's not really there!

Love is a crazy little thing. Let yourself fall in love, but be careful.

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