I know how crazy of a concept this appears to be. She doesn't want to be healthier? But here's the thing: I'm perfectly healthy and feel no obligation (nor desire) to spend hours at the gym every week and here's why:
1. My body is already kick-ass.
My body is already capable of doing amazing things. I can hike up mountains and walk up thousands of stairs. I can ride my bike for miles. I can flip my body and hang upside down during my arial yoga class. My body is capable and able to do amazing things already.
2. I'm comfortable with my current weight.
While my current weight may not be everyone else's perception of happy, I'm perfectly healthy. I'm an able bodied person who has a job, exercises when I feel like it, and experiences life.
3. Losing weight wouldn't make my life better.
I know this because I've done it. I lost 80 pounds and assumed my life would be phenomenal and that I'd be happier and have better opportunities. Did any of this actually happen? No. I was miserable. I didn't allow myself to eat anything besides fruit, vegetables, and half of a chicken breast. I didn't experience life; I was trapped.
4. My gym attendance has nothing to do with my worth.
I am worthy of love, happiness, and success. How little or how much I go to the gym has NOTHING to do with that. I'm beautiful, happy, and healthy and that's all I could really ask for.
5. I don't like going to the gym.
I genuinely just don't like going to the gym. I feel like I could put my effort elsewhere and do something that actually makes me happy.
6. I don't need to lose weight.
While some may be surprised to hear this coming from someone who is overweight, my weight is not affecting my health, mobility, or my happiness.
7. Societal standards don't determine my beauty.
While there are people in the world who enjoy spending several hours a week at the gym to achieve a "perfect" body, I do not. In fact, I'm a firm believer that my body is already perfect. The only thing that I could do to make my body more beautiful, is to love it a little bit more.
While I frequent the gym around twice a week, I feel absolutely zero obligation to continue going. Losing weight doesn't mean happiness and beauty. Going to the gym for me just means maintaining my health and keeping my body moving.