That feeling when your heart drops into your stomach when you see the person you like with someone else. That gut wrenching feeling that happens when all the blood rushes to your head and you feel really warm. That feeling that you aren’t good enough. What did they have that you didn’t? Were you not funny enough? Pretty enough? Athletic enough? What happened?

You try to make yourself feel better. Eh who needs them?! I can do so much better. Clearly they weren’t the one. Welp I guess I am starting over. You feel like you are running out of options. I mean the good guys seem to be hiding in a pit somewhere because you can’t seem to find them. You thought you found one, but clearly he wasn’t for you.

You try to not dwell on it, go out with friends, do something fun, but then something reminds you of them and you wondering what they are doing at the moment. Are they eating at a nice restaurant? Cuddling? You tell yourself not to go there it doesn’t matter. You tell yourself that you are fine. That it doesn’t really matter. But does it? If it doesn’t matter then why does it bother you so much?

I mean how many times can one person be rejected before they just finally give up and buying a truck- load of cats? Life has a funny way of keeping us in check. Making sure we don’t get too comfortable with ourselves. It keeps us on our toes, keeps us evaluating and making sure we are growing.

Rejection happens. People leave us, our friends hurt us, the world lets us down, but we don’t have to let that get us down. Channel that into something else. Draw it, write about it, learn a new hobby. Go buy a new dress, eat some ice cream, go do something that makes you happy. Girl you are beautiful and kind. You shouldn’t have to convince someone to love you; you should be valued.

Turn the ugly parts of life into something beautiful. Life is too short to spend it upset. That doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t real. It doesn’t mean they aren’t important. You are allowed to feel sad. Just don’t let that become your new normal. Be sad, feel what you need to feel. Then pick up the pieces and make it into something beautiful.

The Chinese take pottery when it breaks and repair it filling in the cracks with Gold. Take the broken pieces of your life and fill them with something wonderful making the broken pieces fit back together. Take the ugly things in your life and make them beautiful.

Life isn’t always easy, it cracks and breaks, and makes us shatter. But we don’t have to stay like that. We can slowly repair the things in our lives with something wonderful.