I'm that girl.
My mom is my best friend… and it’s totally normal.
First of all, there is no rule in this world that says she can’t be. Second of all, there is definitely no rule that says your mom can’t be one of them. In fact, I have such a great relationship with my mother that I’d encourage others to be close with theirs.
I love my entire family more than anything in this world but I’m the closest with my mom. It’s more than calling her when I have a problem or a question. It’s definitely more than asking her for money or complaining about my brother. It’s an unfathomable trust that I have in her and no matter what I tell her I always walk away feeling better than before.
For instance, if I’m having a really bad anxiety day I know I can call my mom and just talk to her. Even if it’s for five minutes and not one word spoken is about anxiety or what I’m freaking out about, I’ll hang up that phone knowing that my mom was there for me to call. On the flip side, if she’s having a really good day I’d rather listen to her story than do anything else.
I’m serious when I say I’d rather stay home and play UNO with her than go out with my other friends. Part of it is lack of money but it’s mostly because I just enjoy sitting in the living room watching movies with her. Even the nights when going out does sound like fun I’m quick to invite her even though she usually says no. The best part is that my friends actually encourage her to come with us because they love hanging out with her just as much.
It’s more than just common interest and inside jokes for me. My mom lost her mom in her twenties and I can’t imagine what that feels like. I can’t imagine not being able to call her and just say hi. I couldn’t fathom not being able to see her every day or not spending holidays with her.
I know that one day I won’t have this beautiful bond with my mother anymore and instead of letting that scare me, I’m using it as a reason to appreciate her more. Instead of taking her for granted, which let’s be honest we’ve all done to our mothers at one point, I’m making every moment with her count. She is one hundred percent my best friend and I’m grateful that I’m able to have that kind of relationship with her.
“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” – Washington Irving