I'm in the same boat as you. I've dreamed about my fairytale wedding since I could barely walk, watching every single Disney Princess movie time after time again. I've been through high school, gone to prom, and have yet to go on a true date. I sometimes feel as if people expect me to be embarrassed by the fact that I've never had a boyfriend. I'm by no means embarrassed but have set specific standards for finding a loyal man to spend time with.
I do not belittle those who have found love at first sight or choose to go out with a different guy every week. My expectations for finding a boyfriend are set by honesty, loyalty, and respect. While I'm ready to give dating a shot, I know that I am not alone in this process. Here are a few words to my fellow single ladies trying to find their man as well.
I've never been the one to speak openly about relationships but have felt that the time is right. As a new student in college, there seems to be a stigma that goes along with a girl not "talking" to a guy. If you're anything like me, you know it can be hard to put yourself out there when girls have put expectations on you. Feeling like you aren't pretty enough, smart enough or cool enough affects your self-esteem to compare yourself to others. Trust me, I get it. The truth that comes out of these lies is that you ARE good enough. Your worth is found in Christ alone and He has a perfect guy waiting for you according to His will. It may seem difficult now, but the Lord's timing is always perfect. Be patient and understand that the one God has for you should love you for who you are.
The only reason I have for never dating someone before is set by my high standards. I believe that relationships are meant for more than two people getting to know each other. If I'm going to invest in a relationship, I want a man who's going to pursue the Lord and push me to be a better Christian. I believe in loyal partnership and commitment to loving others. I do not want to date for the sake of just having a boyfriend; I won't settle for just anyone. Living in a world where casual relationships and hookup culture is a social norm, it can be hard to find genuine guys who are seeking connections for the right reasons. I am open to finding true love, but I know this is going to be a process.
I've enjoyed the single life for a while now, learning more about myself than I ever thought I would. While it is difficult to see everyone else enjoying their "perfect" relationship, I constantly remind myself that God is preparing me for someone greater. I haven't given up on love and believe that my prince will come soon. The only thing left to do is to keep praying that God will guard my heart. Being patient is not an easy task, but I will be grateful for never settling for less.
To the girl who's never dated before, please know that you are not alone. I'm feeling exactly the way you are and am continuing to wait for the perfect one. Sometimes it's frustrating, other times it's nice. The right guy you are waiting for? He will come. It might be tomorrow, it might be a few years down the road. If there's one thing for you to remember it's that Christ's love is never-ending. Keep on being you, for one day your prince will come.
Love always,
Ash
