Proverbs 4:23 says “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” My friend sent me this verse and it captivated my heart. I read it and immediately thought of all my best friends who have trouble guarding their heart from boys who could care less. It feels like almost every day I’m getting a text from one of my friends that says “I hate him” or “why is he treating me like this?”. It’s painful for me to see them like this. To see them feel less or unworthy. There have been countless times that these wonderful women have cried over irrelevant boys. I am guilty of this too. I have cried over boys that I think walk on water when in reality they could care less.

I think I speak for most girls when I say it’s hard for us to guard our hearts. We see cute movies, pictures on Instagram and we want that. So when a boy shows slight interest in us, we give it all we got. We give him our heart hoping that he’s not like the rest. But when he breaks it, we can’t help but feel worthless. Well I am here to tell you that sweetheart, that wasn’t his in the first place. He didn’t do a damn thing to deserve your heart. He may have said a few nice things and it was nice at first but now the “honeymoon” phase is over and he won’t even snap you back. You question everything about yourself. “Oh it must be my fault”, “I probably annoyed him”, “I’m too fat”, the excuses just go on. But the cycle keeps going and you keep getting hurt. I think it’s time to break the cycle of hurt and start guarding our hearts.

God has grabbed you by the hand and said “the pain that you have been feeling cannot compare to the joy that is coming.” –Romans 8:18. When you think less of yourself because another boy gave up on you, just remember that God is there. He tells us to guard our hearts. Our hearts are the most precious thing we can give to anyone. Think of your heart as a piece of glass. If multiple people have held that piece of glass, then it’s going to end up all smudged and dirty.

It could also get chipped or even broken. God doesn’t want our hearts to be smudged and broken. He wants it to be pure and held together. If we guard our hearts, God will bring us the one who can protect it. God has prepared a plan for us. We have to trust that he has prepared the right man for us, not boy, but man. You are a daughter of the king, wait for a Godly man who treats you like it. Guard your heart and pray continuously. Remember this quote in times of need, “An Ephesians 5 man pursues a Proverbs 31 woman in order to create a 1 Corinthians 13 love.” Trust God and all that he does and he will guide you to who you need to be with.