College is hard. Figuring out what you want to do with your life is hard.
Accepting the fact that you just aren't good at something is the hardest. But that doesn't mean you aren't smart enough. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough.
So, to the girl who’s changing her major from engineering to biology, to business, or to art, etc. ... do NOT ever let anyone make you feel like you aren’t smart enough because you decided you didn’t want to do it.
When you come to college hell bent that you will be an engineer, a WOMAN engineer at that and then you fail physics (twice)... you realize maybe you won’t make the best engineering student. Just because your strengths lie somewhere else other than in engineering classes, does not mean you are any less important.
You don't play the “I was the only girl in my class” card and say it was hard because you were intimidated. I was not what God had planned for you and it made you so miserable. You still probably thought long and hard about what people would think about you if you changed your major.
"Would they think I’m dumb?"
"Do they think I gave up?"
"Do they think I failed ALL my classes?"
But you cant get stuck on the title.
That hit home.
To the man who asks you ”if the math was just too hard” ... no sir, I was just miserable. But also, what’s it to him? You’re the one working for this degree. You’re the one sacrificing countless sleepless nights. Knowing you gave your all to something and realized it wouldn’t make you happy and changing that for yourself should never make you feel bad.
To the guys in your class who laughed when you didn't understand what was going on, wish them luck. They might wake up one day and realize they hate their job.
Whatever degree you get from your college will be worth it. It will be something you earned on your own. Whether they think so or not, it was just as hard. It took just as much work and probably more common sense.
Now, I'm not hating on all the engineering majors. I'm just trying to let the girls out there like me know that it's okay when you decide you don't want to be an engineer (or whatever else). You don't need to be an engineer to be important, to be powerful, or to be smart.
So, to the girls that this letter speaks to, good luck in your future and keep your chin up.
