To The Girl Who Didn't Get The Guy | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Entertainment

To The Girl Who Didn't Get The Guy

It hurts right now, but I promise it will get better

Lauren Birkey
Dec 07, 2015
Ball State University
208
To The Girl Who Didn't Get The Guy
Andrew E Weber

I’m sorry things didn’t work out. You really wanted to be with him, and for some reason you can’t. I’ve been there too, and I’m sorry.

Listen to your friends. Your friends will say he isn’t worth it. They will say that if you were meant to be together, he would have made it happen. They will say that one day everything is going to work out. Part of you doesn’t want to admit they’re right, but they are. Your friends will also take you out for ice cream and buy you drinks and watch movies while you recover, so keep them close. They love you and want the best for you.

Do not think, “I should have told him how I felt, then none of this would have happened.” Mistakes can happen: maybe you missed the chance to tell him, maybe he missed the chance to tell you. But if that is the case, and you both still love each other, it will work out in some way.

That being said, any guy who causes you pain is not worth it. If he cared about you the same way you cared about him, he would not do this to you. If he considered you an important person in his life, he would not do this to you. If he considered you an equal, he would not do this to you. Anyone — anyone — who makes you feel this way is not worth your time.

You are worthy of being chased. If he has made no move to pursue you, it is time to move on. If he got scared because you were pursuing him, then he’s not worth it. You deserve someone who will pursue you, who will rise to the challenge, who will respond to you the way you respond to him.

It’s OK to cry. It’s OK to listen to angry music. It’s OK to vent to your friends about it. Your sadness and disappointment are always valid, whether he was a boyfriend for years or a crush for a month. Get all the pain out so that it can be replaced with good things. Soon the sad music will be replaced with laughter at a bar, with spontaneous runs to Target, with epic game nights. Things suck now, but they will get better.

You are beautiful, inside and out. You are intelligent. You are strong. You are worthy of love. It might not happen as soon as you like, but I promise you that your heart will heal, and you will find a person who will treat you like the treasure you are.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Lifestyle

10 Signs You Work In A Restaurant

There's always chaos in the restaurant business.

University of Akron
232
10 Signs You Work In A Restaurant
Brisanis

Working in the restaurant industry is possibly the most fundamentally challenging occupation I have ever experienced when it comes to hospitality and customer service. When you go to a five-star restaurant you expect the time of your life, a two hour getaway, a walk through another time period (rustic Italy, France, Spain, etc), or simply a honeymoon undergo. What you don't see are the behind the scenes scut work: carrying trays, polishing glassware and silverware, kitchen chaos, the list is endless. Now, I'm not saying being a host, server, or bartender is the worst thing in the whole wide world, there are definitely worse things. But the fact of the matter is that it isn't always sunshine and rainbows. In the two years that I have spent in restaurant and customer service, I have spoken my share of expletives, yelled at kitchen staff, and dealt with not-so-happy guests. It isn't easy to keep a bright and shiny smile on your face when all you want to do is choke every person who walks near you. Anyone who has spent even two weeks working in a restaurant understands the rigor and stress that comes with it. Restaurant culture is a tiny world in and of itself that operates on its own principles and creates its own society. It even has its own language. The sayings "runner", "corner", and "on a bus" wouldn't make sense to anyone otherwise. My mother and I both work in a restaurant and the best advice I can give someone going out to eat is to treat us like people. Yes...believe it or not we are people, people. Say "please" and "thank you", or stack your cleared plates before a busser gets to the table. Trust me, the gesture goes a lot farther than you may think.

So, if you work in a restaurant, you can relate with the following points. If not, check out how the brain of a restaurant service (or any customer service) worker actually works. See if you can identify any crazy weird habits your friends have a tendency to partake in.

Keep Reading...Show less
restaurant life
Adulting

11 Things I Learned My Freshman Year of College

Not everything you learn in college can be found in a textbook.

South Dakota State University
221
Breanna Vogel
Breanna Vogel

One of the scariest things we will ever face in our life is going to college. Many of us move away to a new town, join new organizations, and make new friends. We are expected to study, have a social life, relationships, maybe work, and be healthy. It seems pretty easy to do, and in high school all we wanted to do was graduate and move on to this next chapter of our lives. If you are in high school, here are some things that you can learn from before you get to college. If you have already been through your freshman year of college, hopefully you can relate to the things I have learned in college.

Keep Reading...Show less
college tips
Entertainment

11 Shows To Binge Watch Over The Holiday Break

Let's start binging!

Oakland University
123
how to get away with murder
Tumblr

It's about that time where we are too tired to do anything productive, too cold to leave bed, and too lazy to find a new show to watch so we result to re-runs.

For all of you home-bodies, for all of you cold weather haters, here are my suggestions for this holiday break. Let the binging begin!

Keep Reading...Show less
binge watch
Relationships

12 Long-Term Relationship Milestones

You've got a keeper if you've made it to any of these milestones.

University of Iowa
646
couple on the beach
Pexels

You've been together for so long. It's great. And as the time spent in your relationship grows, you hit certain milestones where you know it's real. These can be make-or-break moments, or just little things where you finally realize that you're both doing it. Everybody hits these milestones, no matter how long it takes; they're inevitable.

You know you've made it when you hit these long-term relationship milestones.

Keep Reading...Show less
long-term relationship
Entertainment

10 Of The Best Shows To Binge Watch Over Winter Break

You've got a busy break ahead of you.

Holy Family University
1744
10 Of The Best Shows To Binge Watch Over Winter Break

As the semester is coming to an end, most of us are going to have more free time on our hands. This calls for binge watching a new show on Netflix and really using this break to relax from the stress of school. Here are some of the best shows on Netflix that you should be watching.

Keep Reading...Show less
binge watch

Trending Topics

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments