You’re not alone. You may think you are. It seems like everyone is either getting engaged, getting that precious diamond on their finger, or picking out invitation colors. We are only in our twenties and have our whole lives ahead of us, but we want to be them. I say ‘we’, because I’m right there with you. I know that you just want to be there and rush to that point in your life, but that’s not the way. Just relax.
I honestly don’t know how I would react if all of a sudden I were in a serious relationship and got engaged quickly. Yeah, most of us think that we want that but are we ready? We are in college. I know that some are completely ready to be in the world of marriage. Sometimes I get jealous of the girls that have the great boyfriend and are moving closer and closer to their engagement, but I know that I will get there someday and that today isn’t it. When the time is right, when I’m ready, and when I find a guy that is ready, it will all happen.
Let’s #TBT to the other day. I was so upset because another girl got engaged at school. I was saying to myself, ‘this girl cannot be getting engaged, she’s younger, and got the perfect ring, and the perfect engagement, oh and she’s going to have the perfect wedding.’
It's not going to be perfect, though. For a couple of reasons actually. First of all, nothing is perfect. Nothing. Second, even if there could be perfection in the world we live in today, her wedding is perfect for her but not for me, or you, or anyone else. That is her story, her life, not mine, not yours. I’m sure the pictures that I will insta creep on later will be ah-mazing but they’re not mine. She’s not marrying the guy that I’m in love with. She’s not wearing the shoes I want to wear. She doesn’t have my family at her wedding. She didn’t have crème Brulee as her dessert. So, she’s obviously not me.
It took me a while to come to those realizations. It took some prayer. Lots of it. My social media has been flooded with engagement pictures and it was really getting to me. I know, though, that whenever our time comes to find that perfect man, get the perfect ring, and have the perfect reception, we will know. We also have to remember there has always been a plan. We as little humans, a speck of dust to Our Creator, do not know that plan, but it will all work out. Everything does in the end. So for now, darling, just be patient, love yourself, and don't forget to smile because you never know who is falling in love with it!
P.S Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. {Proverbs 3:5-6}