Picture this. One way or another you meet this guy. Everything about him attracts you to him. He seems completely perfect to you, and you can imagine what it is like being together with him. As you get to know each other more, you start to like him more and more. You believe everything is going great when all of a sudden, boom.
Friend-zoned.
Maybe he told you he values your friendship, maybe he said he cherished you as a friend, or maybe he took the direct path and told you straight forward that he was never going to date you. Whichever way it happened, it still ends up with the exact same result.
I know most people do not believe that girls can be friend-zoned because it is mostly guys that complain about it. I’m here to tell you that it is an extremely real thing. It has happened to me on countless occasions.
A little while ago, I met the man who I thought just might be the one for me. He was amazing, and I felt like he understood me from the very beginning. Imagine my delight when I heard from a close mutual friend that he had asked about me. As we got to know each other more, he became the person that I felt like I could tell anything to. Every flaw that he thought he had made me like him even more.
A few weeks later I got the surprise of my life when he confessed that he really loved having me as a friend and didn't want to ruin our friend ship by pursuing anything more. To say that I was shocked was an understatement. Being a girl, I started to over analyze and think about everything I could have done differently.
The stigma of being in the friend-zone is always seen as a negative thing. However, I’ve learned to embrace it and make the most of it. He has now become a better friend to me then I ever could have imagined. I know he’s there for me through everything, and he knows that I would do the same for him. He knows all of my secrets and never judges based on the past. He knows he can come to me with anything, and I know more about him then I ever thought I would. He sees the side of me that I don't let anyone else see. I can comfortably talk to him for hours about anything. I gained one of the best friends I’ve ever had. We take care of and look out for each other. It is amazing knowing I have someone that will always be there for me. I know that he is always just a phone call away.
Being put in the friend-zone is not always a bad thing, and should not be seen as such. The best relationships start as friendships. Remember that anything is possible and feelings are supposed to develop and grow over time. Recently I’ve heard through mutual friends that he was starting to think about me in a different way. So far we are still in the same positions, but i have hopes for the future. When most people are put in the friend-zone, it prompts them to give up. I’m here to tell you that if you really care for someone, you should be there for them no matter what the situation is. Time has a funny way of changing things if you give it long enough.
