Today I was sitting in a little coffee shop with my friend and we came upon a topic of discussion that I thought would be an interesting article. The topic is a question. Would you rather be the most fashionable one of your friend group or be in a friend group of very fashionable people. This question can be altered to fit in your life. So what I am really asking is, in your friend group would you rather fit in or stand out?

It takes real confidence to stand out in your friend group. You must be very confident in who you are and your friends have to be ok with you being different. Also it might make it hard to have connections and conversations with your friends. This might be why we change who our friends are as we mature. When we are younger it is harder to be different from all of your people who you surround yourself with. With maturity it seems that it is easier for people to act differently from their friends. Even if it is just dressing different or watching different tv shows.

As you look around high school and even college, you see groups of people who are all the same. There are the jocks who wear the same tee shirts and sport shorts. The "basic" girls who all seem to be blonde with leggings. There is nothing wrong with dressing or acting this way unless you are only doing so you can fit into a group. It is nice to be different and interesting as well as being around different and interesting people.

That being said sometimes people who are in a group are pretty similar like the Sex in the City group. Maranda, Charlotte, Carrie, and Samantha may seem like they are the same person but they are all just a little different in a few small ways. To me it seems like if you want a very successful friend relationships you need to find people you jive with, have similar interests, but also see you as a special individual.

To finish, ask yourself this question is it better to be in relationships that just easy or to be in relationships that push you and challenge you to be the best that you can be. This question can be asked about family, friends or romantic relationships.