So, we've all been there. You date in college. I mean, I am not one to date multiple people at once, however, there's a first time for everything. In my recent escapades, I have learned that the frat star and the athlete are two very different types of boys. I say boys because they're obviously not anywhere near men yet. So how are they different? How are they similar? and how do you know which one to choose?
Let's start with frat boys. If you're a sorority girl like me, you're surrounded by frat stars and dad bods on the reg. You see them at your mixers, their parties, and around campus. There are the ones that you keep at a friendly distance because they tend to get around, there are the ones you're genuinely friends with, the ones who just want to hook-up with you, and every once in a while, a dateable one may come your way. I'm not one to make generalizations but let's be honest, stereotypes exist for a reason.
I remember the first frat boy I dated... he was the definition of a frat star. He had made his rounds around Greek and everyone knew who he was. I was a freshman and just thought the guy was cute and figured I would give him a shot. We went on his fraternity's date night and long story short, we "talked" for three months. Whoopdie do. That's pretty long for a frat star that is known for hitting it and quitting it. I always prided myself on being a young woman of substance so although it was a shock to all of Greek that this guy was just with me, I knew it was because he actually liked me. Now don't let this story fool you. This one went back to his old ways shortly after we parted ways and I met the love of my life. Don't take this tale as "Wow, I can change a d-bag if I wanted to," because I am so not one to encourage that. I think you have to take frat boys at face value.
Now on to our athletes. I recently had a few dates with a professional baseball player. Now this is one step ahead of collegiate but they're basically the same when it comes to girls. I would tease him about being an athlete and how they're literally players on and off of the field. He got offended by this. "Not all of us are like that." Whoa. Sensitive much? I didn't know guys were so sensitive up front like that. At first, I laughed, then I realized he was serious...OK. I'm sorry for stereotyping you. So we go on to talk some more and he starts getting flaky so naturally, like the psycho I am, I call him out. Like hey bro, you're being a flake and you're supposed to come to my formal in a week and I spent way too much money to bring a flaky flake. Long story short, he was kind of a female. I mean, honestly, I tell it like it is so that ship just had to sail.
So I guess what I'm saying is, don't ever try to change a frat star, take them at face value and not seriously until they've proven otherwise. The athlete, let's be real unless he's going places, he's probably not worth your time anyway. I mean, if I would have to choose, I would choose the frat star just because I am a crazy, loud, opinionated, srat woman who needs someone who can handle me and put me in my place occasionally. I am a firm believer that if you wait for the right one to come along, he will. Now whether he comes in the form of a frat star or an athlete is up to you my dear.
