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The End Of A Friendship

Some friendships weren't meant to be forever.

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At some point in your life, you are going to sit down and think to yourself, “I really don’t want to be friends with this person anymore.” You might be in denial at first, and you might continue being their friend, but in the long run, you know what’s about to happen.

Things have changed. You two are going down two separate paths. Whatever these two paths may be -- she goes out every night and you stay in, she loves drama, but you avoid it at all costs, you have different friends -- things don’t feel the same anymore. You start listening to the conversations you have together, and they all seem mundane. You spend your time and money together getting drunk or shopping. It feels as though there’s no substance to your friendship anymore.

Even though their path may be wrong to you, it feels right to them. You get to the point where helping them causes you more stress than throwing in the towel. Taking a step back, you wonder why you’re still holding on. They aren’t listening to you anyway. You can’t help someone unless they are willing to help themselves. And besides, just because their lifestyle seems wrong to you doesn’t actually make it wrong. Looking at relationships from a different perspective will give you the insight that you didn’t want to see before. You would rather be sane than be right. The friendship starts to slip away.

You stop volunteering your time to be with this person. You don’t go out of your way to make them happy because you realize they don’t make you happy. Why give 50 percent when the other person is only giving 10 percent? You let life get in the way. You go out with each other less. You let life run its course, and life wants you two to be apart. It’s for the better, isn’t it?

You don’t wish the worst for that person. You wish the best for them, actually. You want the same for them as you did when you were friends: good health and happiness. But you realize that you can’t make this happen. You can’t control someone’s life. You can only control what you choose to do with your life. Sometimes, the more you learn about a person, the less you want to spend with them. Friendships are more than getting drunk and going out to eat.

Let go of grudges and let go of negative relationships. Life is meant to be lived with happiness, and if you can’t do that with a bad friendship, let it go. Once you let go and let positivity in, you have nowhere to go but up. Wish them the best. Let them be free of your constant nagging and disapproval. They deserve happiness and so do you.

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