What is love? “An intense feeling of deep affection.”

In our day and age love is a word used loosely, we all want love. We want to feel the deep connection that we see every day on shows we are emotional glued to. I mean I watch the love between couples on TV. Sometimes you want just that though, the love the sell you. The idea of love is so beautiful that we want everything that goes with, the anger and the joy. We want to feel the raw feeling that love brings to the table. Although that love is a beautiful feeling; love can be brutal when it wants to be. It causes pain and heartbreak; it makes you cry in the middle of the shower, or burn everything that reminds you of him/her.

I’m not saying I know what love is; I don’t know the first thing about love, but I refuse to let adults tell me I don’t know what it s because I’m “young." I mean what does age actually have to do with love? I have met people who find love at a young age. You don’t have to be in your late 20s to understand the idea of it. I’m not sure what being in love feels like, but I do know a thing about having love for someone. When you actually care about how they feel, and you want great feelings for that person. Love is a beautiful thing to have.

In a way, I kind of feel bad for my generation. I mean we strive for love so much that we forget the number one rule when it comes to it. You have to love yourself for who you are. How can you expect someone else to love you when you can’t love yourself? So many young ladies my age want love but don’t know how to attain it. They think if they wear booty shorts and low tops then they'll attain it, and honestly I blame that on society's view on women. We have this idea of love because what society has shown us. I mean I have watched Boy Meets World with the perfect couple of Cory and Topanga. The unrealistic goals that it can be easy and can be solved in a single episode aren't true. Love does not happen in one season; it takes time to grow and blossom into a beautiful rose, and if it makes it any better we have movies like Letters to Juliet and He’s Just Not That Into You that show us that love can be attainable in a month if you try hard enough.

Don’t get me wrong, love is achievable, but it isn’t easy and you can’t break up after the first fight. Ask an old couple how they lasted all these years and the say communication. Communication is ideal and it’s what this world lacks. No one communicates anymore and if we do it involves yelling and fighting. We would rather fight then actually talk about our problems. Why is that?

I want to leave you with a thought I have in mind. Before you end that relationship or lose that friendship, do just this one thing: write out all the problems and ask this question, can I work it out? Nothing in this world is easy especially love. Love is the hardest, but let’s be real, if it was easy, we would all be happily in love.

Stay Beautiful,

Akira